Authenticity Life Coach, Judit Szabo

Happiness is a daily practice of self-love, respect and care. 🦋

New Eyes

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes. 🦋

Authentic Freedom

Are you authentic?

Are you true to yourself?

Do you own your authenticity?

How do you know?

One of the gifts or benefits of being more authentic is having a profound inner sense of freedom.

Freedom to make our own choices, express ourselves without fearing negative repercussions, and honour our values, passions, talents and purpose.

The following is a simple yet revealing three-point questionnaire that will uncover how consciously you are connected to your authentic self and the degree that you own your true self in your day-to-day life;

🌀 How much freedom do you have to make your own choices based on what you need/desire to feel whole, happy, and fulfilled?

🌀 How comfortable are you with expressing your own ideas, views and opinions in your relationships, at work and as a leader?

🌀 How often in a day do you feel authentic, fully expressing yourself, not play-acting to fulfill the expectations of others and society?

I suggest answering the three questions with one of the following responses;

🌀 I don’t know.

🌀 Not free.

🌀 Somewhat or sometimes free.

🌀 100% Free.

Authentic women own their inherent right to experience their freedom to be, do and have that which is true to their nature. 🦋

Women Who Thrive

Today we live in a culture that advocates that a woman can ‘do it all’. Yes, of course, we can but at what cost?

Many women are experiencing low-grade burnout, compromised mental health, cognitive dissonance, and relentless fatigue.

Overextended and depleted, women are searching for solutions and many are turning to authenticity life coaching as a means to correct their inner-outer imbalance, to restore and sustain their sense of equanimity, joy and vitality.

As an authenticity life coach, I support my clients to…

🌸 Become more conscious of their authentic selves.

🌸 Develop a self-empowering mindset.

🌸 Proactively thrive in their multi-faceted life.

Authenticity is the holy grail that enhances our capacity to empower our life positively.

Self-Empowered, Authentic Women Thrive. 🦋

Fake, Fraud, Imposter?

You are smart, capable and successful, yet deep down, you are terrified that at any time, you will be exposed as a fraud, a fake.

I just described imposter syndrome, a feeling in which accomplished women discredit their achievements and victories and believe that one day they will be found out.

Some signs of impostor syndrome include:

🌸 Crediting luck or timing as reasons for your success.

🌸 You are afraid of being seen as imperfect or a failure.

🌸 You believe that the only way to meet expectations is by overworking.

🌸 You don’t believe you are worthy of attention or affection.

🌸 You downplay your accomplishments.

🌸 You tend to procrastinate and hold back from reaching attainable goals.

Some steps to consider to overcome your imposter syndrome….

🌸 Realize that you are not alone in believing that you are a fraud. Indeed, it is estimated that 70% of individuals worldwide have experienced imposter syndrome at some point in their lives.

🌸 Acknowledge your potential and own your achievements both mentally and emotionally.

🌸 Identify and respect your feelings and fears and then put them to the side. Write out all of your achievements and success to date.

🌸 Stop comparing yourself to others by holding your achievements up against theirs; instead, focus on measuring your successes.

🌸 Hire a qualified life coach, like myself who can assist you with turning your thoughts, feelings and behaviour away from believing that you are a fake by supporting you with owning your authenticity and building your future on your actual strengths, accomplishments and successes. 🦋

Authenticity Life Coaching offers women the opportunity to become reacquainted with their true selves and enrich the quality of their lives and work experiences with newfound knowledge and confidence.

The holy grail that enhances our capacity to positively influence how we experience and relate to ourselves, others, our endeavours, and everyday situations is authenticity.

The qualities and experience of being authentic are unique to every individual however, that being said, here are some universal commonalities:

🌀 A thriving lifestyle.

🌀 Engaged in healthy relationships.

🌀 Immersed in a meaningful and fulfilling career or endeavours.

🌀 Leading others with newfound vision, focus and interpersonal savvy.

If you are intrigued and are interested in exploring the power of Authenticity Life Coaching, you can contact us through our website. http://www.vesselsofvision.com 🦋

Unbreakable

Excellent leadership is always a commitment to other human beings first because it’s the people who fulfill the ‘WHY.’

Authentic leadership is excellent leadership. It is the full embodiment and expression of ‘this is who I am’ for the benefit of inspiring others to be and do their best by doing the same.

Authentic leadership is about trust – naturally demonstrating integrity, honesty and accountability every day, all day.

Their words and deeds are consistent with their intentions.

Authentic leaders are always committed to their people by inspiring their hearts before their minds.

They influence their people and results through genuine enthusiasm and inspiration rather than fear-based manipulation.

Authentic leadership is sustainable excellence. It’s unbreakable. 🦋

You’ve Got This!

The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s life is the source from which our self-empowerment flows.

A few notes on personal responsibility …

🌸 No one is going to save you; be your heroine.

🌸 Use your creative intelligence and agency to move through an unpleasant situation you find yourself in, no matter who may have caused it.

🌸 Make a conscious choice to process your unpleasant emotions such as shame, regret and guilt; otherwise, they will distort your reality.

🌸 Change what needs to be changed as soon as you can.

🌸 Your perspective will empower you or disempower you. You can choose your perspective.

🌸 Know and understand what is intrinsic to you and never compromise what you truly value.

🌸 Do hard things.

🌸 If you’ve failed, learn from the experience and move on with renewed knowledge and understanding.

🌸 Accept that life is 50/50, both light and dark and no addiction, bottle, distraction, cave, procrastination or denial will change that reality. However, knowing that you have the power to affect both the light and dark to your advantage is how you make your dreams come true. 🦋

When Life Happens

Life is simple…

🌀 Everything happens for you, not to you.

🌀 Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late.

🌀 You don’t have to like it … it’s just easier if you do.

🌀 Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing ever happened that didn’t need to happen.

🌀 When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.

If you believed in the above statements, how would you view your challenges differently? 🦋

Some of the habits we’ve developed to survive can hinder us as we begin to grow and thrive consciously.

Psychologically we need to lean out of survival mode by developing habits that support the new life we envision for ourselves.

🌸 What habits do you presently have that don’t uphold the new version of you?

🌸 What present-day habits do you have that uphold your new vision?

🌸 What new habits do you want to start developing that will empower you on your new path?

🌸 What is one simple new habit you could start experimenting with today that mirrors your vision of thriving?

Thriving habits. Thriving you. Thriving life. 🦋

Your Opinion Matters

To authentically thrive in our lives, we must break the habit of looking outside of ourselves to find our self-esteem.

Healthy, strong and empowered self-esteem largely depends on the…

🌸 Depth of our self-knowledge.

🌸 Height of our self-awareness.

🌸 Range of our agency.

When we have a strong sense of self-esteem, we feel good about ourselves and see ourselves as deserving of the respect of others.

Authentic self-esteem is healthy and active, and we…

🌸 Are optimistic and proactive.

🌸 Easily express our needs.

🌸 Confidently make decisions.

🌸 Are in healthy relationships.

🌸 Have realistic expectations.

🌸 Self-Compassionate.

🌸 Empathetic toward others.

🌸 Resilient to setbacks.

Our self-esteem, which is the opinion we have of ourselves, determines the quality of our life experiences. 🦋

Causing Fear

Fear has only two causes…

🌸 The thought of losing what you have.

🌸 The thought of not getting what you want.

Whether we aim to buy milk at the store or build a multinational corporation, the flow towards success is the same. 🦋

🌸 Dream, possibility, vision.

🌸 Desire, enthusiasm, passion.

🌸 Belief, decision, commitment.

🌸 Map, plan, steps.

🌸 Action, action, action.

🌸 Fail, revise, reset.

🌸 Results, success, celebrate.

Fun

Play.

Have fun.

Go on adventures.

Create beautiful memories.

Laugh lots.

Love living

Your life. 🦋

Love is Crystal Clear

Genuine relationships foster authenticity, and they nurture healthy intimacy that helps us flourish, thrive, and bring the best out in ourselves.

When we are in an authentic relationship, we feel and experience…

❤️ Unlimited acceptance, appreciation, and respect.

❤️ Generous, considerate and open communication that seeks to understand and acknowledge.

❤️ Comfort and safety with sharing our deepest thoughts, feelings and experiences without the fear of being judged or admonished.

❤️ Alive, desirable, and loved for whom we are and what we value and believe in.

❤️ Effortless, deep and caring connection that strengthens the awareness that I’m ok – you’re ok – we’re ok.

❤️ Our love is crystal clear.

Happy Mother’s Day!

As we move through the flurry of Mother’s Day, I invite all of us to take a moment to reflect on the cosmic Great Mother, the divine, feminine Spirit of nurturance known as The Goddess that graces our inner lives.

She reminds us that we are the healer, the teacher, the creative force who has the wisdom and the love to soothe our neverending emptiness, calm the pain pinned to our hearts and wipe the tears of shame and guilt for being a woman.

The Great Mother within inspires us to embody her spirit – mind, body, heart, and soul – to nurture our selfhood and empower our womanhood.

How would my life be different if I cherished myself wholly, thoroughly, and absolutely?

If I…

🌸 Listened and responded to my deepest needs and desires.

🌸 Offered comfort and words of encouragement as I move through my frenetic days and surrender to my darkest moments of pain, powerlessness and loneliness.

🌸 Loved myself unconditionally, no matter how often I have misstepped, slipped up and thoroughly made a mess of things.

Imagine who I can become if I practiced the wisdom and love of the Great Mother within. 🦋

And The Game Changed

The privilege of a lifetime is to uncover who we truly are, to live our truth unapologetically and to become more real with each remembrance. 🦋

Opening Doors

Doors open effortlessly when you are ready to walk through.

Are you ready? Do you know what your ‘ready’ looks like?

Clarity, being clear on your intention, vision and at least the first three steps forward is usually enough ‘readiness’ to open your doors. 🦋

Life happens for us, not to us.

Imagine if we believed that life is always working on our behalf. How differently would we respond to it’s bewildering twists and turns?

What if we believed that everything that we have and will experience is a means to help us to be more authentic, empowered and alive?

How would our perspective transform about whom we are in our story, victim or victor?

As a victor, we accept challenging situations and allow them to help us become wiser, stronger and more empowered as we walk along our path.

As a victim, we argue with reality, resist it, and become paralyzed in our own story, bemoaning the unfairness of life. As self-anointed victims, we’re stuck in our ignorance, we disempower our ability to effect change, and we struggle in our suffering mindset.

When a challenge, unpleasantness or a wrongness presents itself, remember its true purpose, breathe and listen to your inner truth whisper, ‘life doesn’t happen to me but for me.’

Feel the shift and embrace the gift. 🦋

Slaying Mediocrity

An empowered women is guided by her principles, and she does not lower her standards to satisfy the mediocrity of her ego. 🦋

Because true beauty is not superficial, it can’t fade, crinkle, nor wither on our ever changing visage.

It can’t be found in a jar, pricked into our lines and folds, nor surgically etched onto our skin.

Our true beauty has that luminous ‘Je ne sais quoi’ quality that is hard to define. It’s playful, mystical and bold with a ‘bring it on’ sizzle, that torches the lies and burns the bias.

As we age we start to ‘get it’, the cosmic joke, and laugh, and laugh and laugh some more. We become emboldened with love and light, and our true beauty radiates with joy. 🦋

Looking for Answers

When we fully embody our authentic self, we stop looking for answers from other people. 🦋

Believe It to See It

Your life, relationships, career and leadership are a perfect reflection of what you believe is possible for you to experience and what is not.

Change your belief, energize it with clarity of intention and purpose driven action and a new reflection will appear.

You will live it when you believe it for you.🦋

Today Practice Kindness

Today remind yourself that you are capable of unlimited compassion, generosity and goodness.

Practice kindness whenever it is possible. It’s always possible. 🦋

I’m On My Side

With every act of self-care, our overall well being improves, and in the soft glow of love, our essential self is brought to the light. 🦋

Dancing In Your Orbit

Don’t prioritise your looks my friend, they won’t last the journey.

Your sense of humour though, will only get better.

Your intuition will grow and expand like a majestic cloak of wisdom.

Your ability to choose your battles, will be fine-tuned to perfection.

Your capacity for stillness, for living in the moment, will blossom.

And your desire to live each and every moment will transcend all other wants.

Your instinct for knowing what (and who) is worth your time, will grow and flourish like ivy on a castle wall.

Don’t prioritise your looks my friend, they will change forevermore, that pursuit is one of much sadness and disappointment.

Prioritize the uniqueness that makes you you, and the invisible magnet that draws in other like-minded souls to dance in your orbit.

These are the things which will only get better.

Belonging

When we wholly belong to our authentic self – mind, body, heart and soul – we thrive in our choices of belonging. 🦋

The Pause

Pause. Breath. Reflect. Reset.

It’s not only action that initiates a redirection and change.

Sometimes, all it takes is an intentional pause and a subtle shift in perspective to cleanse our thoughts, to see the hidden path that can lead us to new vistas of possibilities.

Practice the art of the pause. 🦋

In The Quietude

We have, deep within ourselves, deep pools of great wisdom, that can be tapped whenever we are ready to ask the question.

To hear the whispers of our inner wisdom, we simply need to ask the question and then be silent, and in the quietude, the answer we seek will find us. 🦋

Thrive Authentically

To thrive is to live life authentically in all its fullness with love, courage and joy. 🦋

The New Success

Be you, real and rare. Being authentic is the new success. 🦋

Trust the Magic

The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you’re not going to stay where you are. Trust the magic of beginnings. Let’s Go! 🦋

Together We Remember

In the company of women, it’s easier for each of us to remember our own truth.

We remember that our lives depend on our capacity to drop all facades and pretenses.

We remember the bliss of just accepting that we are here to be ourselves.

And we remember, together, that the most powerful place for us to be, even if it’s sometimes terrifying, is fully in our body, so that we can move with the vulnerability and compassion of a broken-open heart. 🦋

The Heart of Intimacy

Courage in an intimate relationship is not the absence of fear but a decision that you and your relationship are worth a moment of discomfort.

Silence in a relationship can not be an option because it gags our inherent right to love and be loved unconditionally — wholly and fully.

Wimping out in our relationship compromises our happiness, authenticity and self-respect. Inevitably, when we deny our truth, we step out of our empowered self and step into a victim mindset, swirling in shame, guilt and eventual regret.

Our intimate relationships are meant to be safe havens within which we can freely voice our fears, frustrations and disappointments, as well as, our needs and desires without the risk of being mentally or emotionally denied, dismissed or belittled.

For intimacy to flourish there cannot be the threat of a fall out for being human, vulnerable and real. A healthy and vibrant relationship embodies unbridled compassion, understanding and respect.

Intimacy requires the promise that our rights, needs and desires are valid and deserving to be acknowledged, cherished and encouraged both within ourself and in our relationship.

When we decide that we matter, (and we inherently do) we will find the way. I promise. 🦋

Break The Bias

Imagine a gender equal world …

🦋 A world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination.

🦋 A world that is diverse, equitable, and inclusive.

🦋 A world where difference is valued and celebrated.

🦋 Together we can forge women’s equality.

🦋 Collectively we can all #BreakTheBias.

Mine Not Yours

Being more authentic means that we are engaged in things and connected with people that matter to us, that make us feel more alive, happy and whole.

It also means that we don’t allow the expectations and opinions of others to limit who we are, what we do and where our passions and dreams want to take us.

Authenticity is a choice and a commitment we make everyday, to live our own reality based on our own sense of purpose, values and beliefs, and not ‘theirs’.

When we step off the prescribed path that ‘they’ have endorsed as good and worthy, we take a stand for all that we are and we begin to forge our own identity and destiny and not ‘theirs’.

As our connection to our authentic-self deepens, we are inner-inspired to satisfy our own needs and desires. We stop ignoring and suppressing our inherent life force for the sake of pleasing ‘them’ with the hope that we will receive ‘their’ benediction, approval and love rooted in ‘their’ conditions.

When we decide to acknowledge, appreciate and understand our true self, we begin to make different choices that not only support our intrinsic need to survive but to also thrive in the adventure of being real, doing things that reflect our truth and connecting with people that resonate with our heart and soul.

Essentially, in the realm of authenticity, we transform and refresh the quality and experience of living our very own unique and beautiful life and not ‘theirs’. 🦋

Decisions Shape Destiny

It’s March the third month or chapter of the year.

Now is a good time to reflect on how well you are moving through the year, the decisions you’ve made, acted on and are now enjoying the results, the outcomes. Celebrate your wins!

It’s also a good time to reflect on the aspects of your life where you are stuck in the muck of indecisiveness, lack of momentum and worthy results.

Making decisions and following through is one of our super powers. When we put off making a decision or don’t follow through we are denying and abdicating our power to create on purpose.

To get unstuck, reevaluate and decide to recommit to your decision or drop the decision and commit to something that is more in alignment of what you desire to experience.

Both our decisions and our indecisiveness create the quality of our experiences, our life.

Self-empowerment springs from our ability to consciously make decisions and follow through with the expectation of achieving a desired result or outcome.

Your decisions, your follow through, your destiny! Decide on purpose, create a life you can thrive in! 🦋

What We Live

Our thoughts create our reality.

We live our lives in accordance to what we believe about ourself, our identity, what we can do and have, as well as, our limitations, what we cannot do and not have.

Our experiences are the offspring of what we believe.

When we transform our beliefs about the essence of ‘self’, our capabilities and limitations, we fundamentally transform our experiences.

Our beliefs are our life, we dream about them, focus on them and live them.

Imagine for a moment that some of your beliefs are wrong, and that you are so much more creative, courageous and powerful than you have allowed yourself to be, how would your life change? What possibilities would you allow yourself to live, to experience? 🦋

Worthiness Walks

When we respect our worthiness and that which we esteem and stand for, we have zero tolerance for anyone or anything that is a threat to our sense of decency and honour.

We don’t waste our precious time and energy trying to fix the unfixable, we walk! 🦋

Moving Forward

My grandmother once gave me a tip:

In difficult times, move forward in small steps.

Do what you have to do, but little by little.

Don’t think about the future or what may happen tomorrow.

Wash the dishes.

Remove the dust.

Write a letter.

Make a soup.

You see?

Advance step by step.

Take a step and stop.

Rest a little.

Praise yourself.

Take another step.

And then another.

You won’t notice, but your steps will grow more and more.

And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying. 🦋

Bloom in Self-Forgiveness

Choose to forgive yourself and release the pain of your past with its burden of shame, guilt, regret and self-loathing.

Choose to practice self-forgiveness so that you can forever cleanse your inner darkness and see the warm glow of your truth transcend your humanely blunders.

Choose to forgive yourself and return to your innocence, the cradle of your wholeness, inner-peace and joy.

Choose to forgive yourself, for you are inherently worthy of love, light and laughter.

Choose the gift of self-forgiveness and bloom in the beauty of receiving it. 🦋

My ‘WOW’ List

When we believe in ourself, we feel confident in our capacity and abilities to make things happen, such as manifesting our dreams, achieving our goals and living true our desires.

Self-belief is based on our self-knowledge including past positive memories of making a decision and successfully acting on it.

If your self-belief is wobbly, think of 25+ awesome things you are proud of that you have manifested, accomplished and achieved. Write them down, breath them in and tuck your ‘WOW’ list away for that next time you are riddled with self-doubt.

Once we have consciously reconnected to our power and emotionally absorbed how powerful we really are, our doubt of self fades and we are ready to go do our next ‘WOW’ thing. Let’s Go! 🦋

Belonging

When we consciously connect to our genuineness, we naturally fall into an exquisite sensation of not only belonging to ourself but to all of humanity.

The feeling of being separate and resistive fades as our authentic wholeness blooms in our consciousness.

When we feel whole we authentically belong everywhere with everyone. 🦋

Inside Out

If you yearn to be more alive, empowered and thriving with a greater sense of passion, purpose, and authenticity, then reconnect to the five dimensions of your true-self and reimagine your life. Begin to live your life from the inside out and not from the outside in. 🦋

Thought is Cause

Change the nature of your thoughts from resistance to acceptance to what is’. Own it fully.

Pause, reflect and reimagine.

Now you are ready to bring about a new possibility and experience your life with more passion, fulfillment and joy. 🦋

First Step

Success is a series of micro steps and atomic habits. Let’s go! 🦋

Own Your Courage

We are so much more capable than what the chains of our comfort-zone allows us to be.

Life shrinks or expands according to our willingness to own and wield our courage. 🦋

New Habits, New Life

Consistent good habits are the compound interest of our success across every aspect of life, work and relationships.

Goals reflect our perception of success, they are an end result that we want to embrace, experience and fully relish – mind, body, heart and soul.

Our aligned good habits are part of the process of getting the results that we desire with more energy, vitality and focus … less resistance, chaos and self-doubt.

Our new goals require that we check in with our present day habits and perhaps refresh some of them, ditch the controversial ones and start leaning into building new supportive ones.

Divergent habits can cripple our will and ability to succeed while well matched habits can exponentially boost our consciousness, confidence and commitment to achieving our goals.

What habits will support you on your journey to the promised land? What habits will help you to cultivate your success? 🦋

When We Believe, We Commit

The moment we believe that it is possible to do or have something that we really want, is when our commitment magically clicks in.

Self-doubt, our inherent kill joy, will block us from committing to something new because different necessitates that we leave our safe and cushy comfort zone where we effortlessly control everything.

Unchecked, self-doubt will effectively contradict all of our attempts to commit to something that we desire to have, that we’ve never had before.

On the other hand, self-belief signals our courage to rise up and to be ready to overcome our discomforts, fears and inner-blocks as we traverse into the unknown and intimidating vistas of change.

It feels like a huge personal risk to change, to move from the known to the unknown, from comfort to discomfort, from effortlessness to effortful. And yet, we intrinsically know that change is necessary to feel alive, flourish and thrive, and so we dare ourselves to commit to the promise of better and more. 🦋

Don’t Give Up!

Instead of giving up …

✅ Recommit to your goal. Feel the wonderfulness of having what you want. Feel the magic of having ‘it’ deep in your bones.

✅ Learn from what’s not working or the mistakes you’ve made.

✅ Celebrate your wins so far.

✅ Tweak your approach.

✅ Remind yourself that every attempt at anything new is at first an experiment and the chances of it not working out right away is usually 100%.

✅ All successful people fail into success, 100% of the time.

✅ Failing is part of the process of succeeding and you’ve got to love failing to succeed.

✅ Take a break and refresh your mind, body, heart and soul and then get back to it.

✅ Reach out to someone that can encourage or help you to take the next step towards your goal.

What do you do when you feel like giving up?

Your goal, new year resolution or intention needs to be so compelling, juicy, and irresistible, that nothing can stop you from getting it – not even your inner saboteur. 🦋

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