Go on adventures.
Create beautiful memories.
Your life. 🦋
Go on adventures.
Create beautiful memories.
Your life. 🦋
Genuine relationships foster authenticity, and they nurture healthy intimacy that helps us flourish, thrive, and bring the best out in ourselves.
When we are in an authentic relationship, we feel and experience…
❤️ Unlimited acceptance, appreciation, and respect.
❤️ Generous, considerate and open communication that seeks to understand and acknowledge.
❤️ Comfort and safety with sharing our deepest thoughts, feelings and experiences without the fear of being judged or admonished.
❤️ Alive, desirable, and loved for whom we are and what we value and believe in.
❤️ Effortless, deep and caring connection that strengthens the awareness that I’m ok – you’re ok – we’re ok.
❤️ Our love is crystal clear.
Happy Mother’s Day!
As we move through the flurry of Mother’s Day, I invite all of us to take a moment to reflect on the cosmic Great Mother, the divine, feminine Spirit of nurturance known as The Goddess that graces our inner lives.
She reminds us that we are the healer, the teacher, the creative force who has the wisdom and the love to soothe our neverending emptiness, calm the pain pinned to our hearts and wipe the tears of shame and guilt for being a woman.
The Great Mother within inspires us to embody her spirit – mind, body, heart, and soul – to nurture our selfhood and empower our womanhood.
How would my life be different if I cherished myself wholly, thoroughly, and absolutely?
🌸 Listened and responded to my deepest needs and desires.
🌸 Offered comfort and words of encouragement as I move through my frenetic days and surrender to my darkest moments of pain, powerlessness and loneliness.
🌸 Loved myself unconditionally, no matter how often I have misstepped, slipped up and thoroughly made a mess of things.
Imagine who I can become if I practiced the wisdom and love of the Great Mother within. 🦋
The privilege of a lifetime is to uncover who we truly are, to live our truth unapologetically and to become more real with each remembrance. 🦋
Doors open effortlessly when you are ready to walk through.
Are you ready? Do you know what your ‘ready’ looks like?
Clarity, being clear on your intention, vision and at least the first three steps forward is usually enough ‘readiness’ to open your doors. 🦋
Life happens for us, not to us.
Imagine if we believed that life is always working on our behalf. How differently would we respond to it’s bewildering twists and turns?
What if we believed that everything that we have and will experience is a means to help us to be more authentic, empowered and alive?
How would our perspective transform about whom we are in our story, victim or victor?
As a victor, we accept challenging situations and allow them to help us become wiser, stronger and more empowered as we walk along our path.
As a victim, we argue with reality, resist it, and become paralyzed in our own story, bemoaning the unfairness of life. As self-anointed victims, we’re stuck in our ignorance, we disempower our ability to effect change, and we struggle in our suffering mindset.
When a challenge, unpleasantness or a wrongness presents itself, remember its true purpose, breathe and listen to your inner truth whisper, ‘life doesn’t happen to me but for me.’
Feel the shift and embrace the gift. 🦋
An empowered women is guided by her principles, and she does not lower her standards to satisfy the mediocrity of her ego. 🦋
Because true beauty is not superficial, it can’t fade, crinkle, nor wither on our ever changing visage.
It can’t be found in a jar, pricked into our lines and folds, nor surgically etched onto our skin.
Our true beauty has that luminous ‘Je ne sais quoi’ quality that is hard to define. It’s playful, mystical and bold with a ‘bring it on’ sizzle, that torches the lies and burns the bias.
As we age we start to ‘get it’, the cosmic joke, and laugh, and laugh and laugh some more. We become emboldened with love and light, and our true beauty radiates with joy. 🦋
When we fully embody our authentic self, we stop looking for answers from other people. 🦋
Your life, relationships, career and leadership are a perfect reflection of what you believe is possible for you to experience and what is not.
Change your belief, energize it with clarity of intention and purpose driven action and a new reflection will appear.
You will live it when you believe it for you.🦋
Today remind yourself that you are capable of unlimited compassion, generosity and goodness.
Practice kindness whenever it is possible. It’s always possible. 🦋
With every act of self-care, our overall well being improves, and in the soft glow of love, our essential self is brought to the light. 🦋
Don’t prioritise your looks my friend, they won’t last the journey.
Your sense of humour though, will only get better.
Your intuition will grow and expand like a majestic cloak of wisdom.
Your ability to choose your battles, will be fine-tuned to perfection.
Your capacity for stillness, for living in the moment, will blossom.
And your desire to live each and every moment will transcend all other wants.
Your instinct for knowing what (and who) is worth your time, will grow and flourish like ivy on a castle wall.
Don’t prioritise your looks my friend, they will change forevermore, that pursuit is one of much sadness and disappointment.
Prioritize the uniqueness that makes you you, and the invisible magnet that draws in other like-minded souls to dance in your orbit.
These are the things which will only get better.
When we wholly belong to our authentic self – mind, body, heart and soul – we thrive in our choices of belonging. 🦋
Pause. Breath. Reflect. Reset.
It’s not only action that initiates a redirection and change.
Sometimes, all it takes is an intentional pause and a subtle shift in perspective to cleanse our thoughts, to see the hidden path that can lead us to new vistas of possibilities.
Practice the art of the pause. 🦋
We have, deep within ourselves, deep pools of great wisdom, that can be tapped whenever we are ready to ask the question.
To hear the whispers of our inner wisdom, we simply need to ask the question and then be silent, and in the quietude, the answer we seek will find us. 🦋
To thrive is to live life authentically in all its fullness with love, courage and joy. 🦋
Be you, real and rare. Being authentic is the new success. 🦋
The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you’re not going to stay where you are. Trust the magic of beginnings. Let’s Go! 🦋
In the company of women, it’s easier for each of us to remember our own truth.
We remember that our lives depend on our capacity to drop all facades and pretenses.
We remember the bliss of just accepting that we are here to be ourselves.
And we remember, together, that the most powerful place for us to be, even if it’s sometimes terrifying, is fully in our body, so that we can move with the vulnerability and compassion of a broken-open heart. 🦋
Courage in an intimate relationship is not the absence of fear but a decision that you and your relationship are worth a moment of discomfort.
Silence in a relationship can not be an option because it gags our inherent right to love and be loved unconditionally — wholly and fully.
Wimping out in our relationship compromises our happiness, authenticity and self-respect. Inevitably, when we deny our truth, we step out of our empowered self and step into a victim mindset, swirling in shame, guilt and eventual regret.
Our intimate relationships are meant to be safe havens within which we can freely voice our fears, frustrations and disappointments, as well as, our needs and desires without the risk of being mentally or emotionally denied, dismissed or belittled.
For intimacy to flourish there cannot be the threat of a fall out for being human, vulnerable and real. A healthy and vibrant relationship embodies unbridled compassion, understanding and respect.
Intimacy requires the promise that our rights, needs and desires are valid and deserving to be acknowledged, cherished and encouraged both within ourself and in our relationship.
When we decide that we matter, (and we inherently do) we will find the way. I promise. 🦋
Imagine a gender equal world …
🦋 A world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination.
🦋 A world that is diverse, equitable, and inclusive.
🦋 A world where difference is valued and celebrated.
🦋 Together we can forge women’s equality.
🦋 Collectively we can all #BreakTheBias.
Being more authentic means that we are engaged in things and connected with people that matter to us, that make us feel more alive, happy and whole.
It also means that we don’t allow the expectations and opinions of others to limit who we are, what we do and where our passions and dreams want to take us.
Authenticity is a choice and a commitment we make everyday, to live our own reality based on our own sense of purpose, values and beliefs, and not ‘theirs’.
When we step off the prescribed path that ‘they’ have endorsed as good and worthy, we take a stand for all that we are and we begin to forge our own identity and destiny and not ‘theirs’.
As our connection to our authentic-self deepens, we are inner-inspired to satisfy our own needs and desires. We stop ignoring and suppressing our inherent life force for the sake of pleasing ‘them’ with the hope that we will receive ‘their’ benediction, approval and love rooted in ‘their’ conditions.
When we decide to acknowledge, appreciate and understand our true self, we begin to make different choices that not only support our intrinsic need to survive but to also thrive in the adventure of being real, doing things that reflect our truth and connecting with people that resonate with our heart and soul.
Essentially, in the realm of authenticity, we transform and refresh the quality and experience of living our very own unique and beautiful life and not ‘theirs’. 🦋
It’s March the third month or chapter of the year.
Now is a good time to reflect on how well you are moving through the year, the decisions you’ve made, acted on and are now enjoying the results, the outcomes. Celebrate your wins!
It’s also a good time to reflect on the aspects of your life where you are stuck in the muck of indecisiveness, lack of momentum and worthy results.
Making decisions and following through is one of our super powers. When we put off making a decision or don’t follow through we are denying and abdicating our power to create on purpose.
To get unstuck, reevaluate and decide to recommit to your decision or drop the decision and commit to something that is more in alignment of what you desire to experience.
Both our decisions and our indecisiveness create the quality of our experiences, our life.
Self-empowerment springs from our ability to consciously make decisions and follow through with the expectation of achieving a desired result or outcome.
Your decisions, your follow through, your destiny! Decide on purpose, create a life you can thrive in! 🦋
Our thoughts create our reality.
We live our lives in accordance to what we believe about ourself, our identity, what we can do and have, as well as, our limitations, what we cannot do and not have.
Our experiences are the offspring of what we believe.
When we transform our beliefs about the essence of ‘self’, our capabilities and limitations, we fundamentally transform our experiences.
Our beliefs are our life, we dream about them, focus on them and live them.
Imagine for a moment that some of your beliefs are wrong, and that you are so much more creative, courageous and powerful than you have allowed yourself to be, how would your life change? What possibilities would you allow yourself to live, to experience? 🦋
When we respect our worthiness and that which we esteem and stand for, we have zero tolerance for anyone or anything that is a threat to our sense of decency and honour.
We don’t waste our precious time and energy trying to fix the unfixable, we walk! 🦋
My grandmother once gave me a tip:
In difficult times, move forward in small steps.
Do what you have to do, but little by little.
Don’t think about the future or what may happen tomorrow.
Wash the dishes.
Remove the dust.
Write a letter.
Make a soup.
Advance step by step.
Take a step and stop.
Rest a little.
Take another step.
And then another.
You won’t notice, but your steps will grow more and more.
And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying. 🦋
Choose to forgive yourself and release the pain of your past with its burden of shame, guilt, regret and self-loathing.
Choose to practice self-forgiveness so that you can forever cleanse your inner darkness and see the warm glow of your truth transcend your humanely blunders.
Choose to forgive yourself and return to your innocence, the cradle of your wholeness, inner-peace and joy.
Choose to forgive yourself, for you are inherently worthy of love, light and laughter.
Choose the gift of self-forgiveness and bloom in the beauty of receiving it. 🦋
When we believe in ourself, we feel confident in our capacity and abilities to make things happen, such as manifesting our dreams, achieving our goals and living true our desires.
Self-belief is based on our self-knowledge including past positive memories of making a decision and successfully acting on it.
If your self-belief is wobbly, think of 25+ awesome things you are proud of that you have manifested, accomplished and achieved. Write them down, breath them in and tuck your ‘WOW’ list away for that next time you are riddled with self-doubt.
Once we have consciously reconnected to our power and emotionally absorbed how powerful we really are, our doubt of self fades and we are ready to go do our next ‘WOW’ thing. Let’s Go! 🦋
When we consciously connect to our genuineness, we naturally fall into an exquisite sensation of not only belonging to ourself but to all of humanity.
The feeling of being separate and resistive fades as our authentic wholeness blooms in our consciousness.
When we feel whole we authentically belong everywhere with everyone. 🦋
If you yearn to be more alive, empowered and thriving with a greater sense of passion, purpose, and authenticity, then reconnect to the five dimensions of your true-self and reimagine your life. Begin to live your life from the inside out and not from the outside in. 🦋
Change the nature of your thoughts from resistance to acceptance to what is’. Own it fully.
Pause, reflect and reimagine.
Now you are ready to bring about a new possibility and experience your life with more passion, fulfillment and joy. 🦋
Success is a series of micro steps and atomic habits. Let’s go! 🦋
We are so much more capable than what the chains of our comfort-zone allows us to be.
Life shrinks or expands according to our willingness to own and wield our courage. 🦋
Consistent good habits are the compound interest of our success across every aspect of life, work and relationships.
Goals reflect our perception of success, they are an end result that we want to embrace, experience and fully relish – mind, body, heart and soul.
Our aligned good habits are part of the process of getting the results that we desire with more energy, vitality and focus … less resistance, chaos and self-doubt.
Our new goals require that we check in with our present day habits and perhaps refresh some of them, ditch the controversial ones and start leaning into building new supportive ones.
Divergent habits can cripple our will and ability to succeed while well matched habits can exponentially boost our consciousness, confidence and commitment to achieving our goals.
What habits will support you on your journey to the promised land? What habits will help you to cultivate your success? 🦋
The moment we believe that it is possible to do or have something that we really want, is when our commitment magically clicks in.
Self-doubt, our inherent kill joy, will block us from committing to something new because different necessitates that we leave our safe and cushy comfort zone where we effortlessly control everything.
Unchecked, self-doubt will effectively contradict all of our attempts to commit to something that we desire to have, that we’ve never had before.
On the other hand, self-belief signals our courage to rise up and to be ready to overcome our discomforts, fears and inner-blocks as we traverse into the unknown and intimidating vistas of change.
It feels like a huge personal risk to change, to move from the known to the unknown, from comfort to discomfort, from effortlessness to effortful. And yet, we intrinsically know that change is necessary to feel alive, flourish and thrive, and so we dare ourselves to commit to the promise of better and more. 🦋
Instead of giving up …
✅ Recommit to your goal. Feel the wonderfulness of having what you want. Feel the magic of having ‘it’ deep in your bones.
✅ Learn from what’s not working or the mistakes you’ve made.
✅ Celebrate your wins so far.
✅ Tweak your approach.
✅ Remind yourself that every attempt at anything new is at first an experiment and the chances of it not working out right away is usually 100%.
✅ All successful people fail into success, 100% of the time.
✅ Failing is part of the process of succeeding and you’ve got to love failing to succeed.
✅ Take a break and refresh your mind, body, heart and soul and then get back to it.
✅ Reach out to someone that can encourage or help you to take the next step towards your goal.
What do you do when you feel like giving up?
Your goal, new year resolution or intention needs to be so compelling, juicy, and irresistible, that nothing can stop you from getting it – not even your inner saboteur. 🦋
You have to believe in something before it can become something. 🦋
What would you start doing if you trusted in the magic of new beginnings and believed that it’s possible? 🦋
Time waits for no one. Do ‘it’ now! Later usually becomes never. 🦋
New year resolutions, goals or intentions are all about ‘creating a new reality’, something that is more desirable and better.
Your actual goal is never about losing weight, making more money, paying off your debts, being in relationship with your soul mate etc.
Your real goal is ‘what’ you expect to experience once you have realized something.
For example, if you’ve decided that you are going to lose 20 lbs in 45 days, your actual goal is what you believe you will experience because you are 20lbs lighter … having more energy, feeling more comfortable in your body, being proud of yourself, attracting more positive attention, etc ….
An essential key to goal achievement is that you focus on your ‘why’ … what you are expecting to experience once you have achieved or realized your goal. 🦋
The holy grail that enhances our capacity to positively influence how we experience and relate to ourselves, others, our endeavours, and everyday situations is authenticity.
It is the essential key to thriving in a meaningful and fulfilling good life. 🦋
When you believe it, mind, body, heart and soul, you will see it, live it. 🦋
Happy New Year My Friends.
If you are contemplating how you will fill up your new year with fresh commitments, adventures and possibilities then you might want to consider what you filter your resolutions through.
The key to successfully fulfilling your New Year Resolutions this year and any year is your crystal clear honesty with yourself.
If your commitment(s) for the up coming year does not electrify your inner sense of being alive, authentic and thriving then wipe it off your list and cleanse your brain of it, because you will not fulfill it, and then you will most likely spiral into a self-loathing, poor me, pity pit that is never fun to climb out of.
Here is a sampling of the 3 intentions I filter my new year resolutions through before I commit to them.
✅ I will do what what energizes my mind, body, heart and soul the most.
✅ Listen to my inner voice, trust my gut and follow through on my intuition.
✅ Do more of what I’m passionate about, that is purpose driven, empowers me to grow and thrive and expands my horizons.
What filters do you use for your resolutions?
Remember that hurt people hurt people and its never ever about you – ever!
Don’t take it personally, but if you do, then take a moment and ask yourself, ‘Why am I having a negative reaction to their words or behaviour?’
At all times when you have negative feelings it is a teachable moment that can highlight a personal thought, feeling or behaviour that you might want to untangle, correct or purge because it no longer serves you nor your best life.
Remember that their suffering is never about you but a stark reflection of their own fears and vulnerabilities which they cannot fully acknowledge let alone take responsibility for.
When someone projects their pain onto you, you can decide as to whether you want to embrace them with love, compassion and
empathy within close proximity or on the outskirts of your life.
At times, I choose to create a safe space for my family, friends and colleagues for them to work through their fears, vulnerabilities and pain.
And, at times I know I can better love my people from a distance, releasing them from my day-to-day life with love and compassion and with the hope, that they will find healing and peace within themselves.
Remember that in any of your personal and professional relationships only you know what is the best approach to take in any given scenario and that whatever you choose, it’s an honest reflection of your truth. 🦋
We are strong enough, wise enough and capable enough, to deal with anyone or anything that passes through our day.
When we know this and actively practise our belief in self, we become profoundly aware of our singular power to influence how we experience everything and everyone in our outer world.
With heightened self-awareness, we are able to witness how precisely we focus on, observe, and encounter what we believe is true and possible for us … to be, do and have.
When we change our mind, that is our deeply felt in the bones thoughts about our present day self and our becoming self, we literally ‘create a new reality’ that reflects our expanded truth.
Magically, everything and everyone vanishes or appears, reshapes or shifts to match our new vision of what we believe is possible.
We are the magic we seek. 🦋
We have over 6000 thoughts a day.
Do you ever wonder what you think about everyday. Are they the same habitual thoughts or is your attention on new and fresh possibilities or perhaps a fine blend of both.
Our thoughts have the power to trigger pleasant or unpleasant emotions such as happy or sad, excitement or boredom, fear or confidence.
As our emotions ripple through our body they empower a physical reaction that drives us to act or behave in a certain way, such as moving towards or moving away from something or someone or perhaps not moving at all but sustaining the status quo.
The decision to act or not act, to move towards or away, to sustain or disrupt will create an effect in our personal world, that we then interpret as good, bad or indifferent. How we experience the outcome initiates a new round of thoughts > results, 6000 times a day.
Our thoughts > emotions > behaviour > create our reality.
To experience a new reality, we need to be brave and strong to think fresh, vibrant and daring new thoughts of what can be possible. 🦋
We can predict what we will experience in our future because right now we are creating it with our thoughts, emotional intelligence and habits. If your tomorrow is being built today, how’s it looking? 🦋