Thriving Tips & Thoughts

6000 Thoughts a Day

We have over 6000 thoughts a day.

Do you ever wonder what you think about everyday. Are they the same habitual thoughts or is your attention on new and fresh possibilities or perhaps a fine blend of both.

Our thoughts have the power to trigger pleasant or unpleasant emotions such as happy or sad, excitement or boredom, fear or confidence.

As our emotions ripple through our body they empower a physical reaction that drives us to act or behave in a certain way, such as moving towards or moving away from something or someone or perhaps not moving at all but sustaining the status quo.

The decision to act or not act, to move towards or away, to sustain or disrupt will create an effect in our personal world, that we then interpret as good, bad or indifferent. How we experience the outcome initiates a new round of thoughts > results, 6000 times a day.

Our thoughts > emotions > behaviour > create our reality.

To experience a new reality, we need to be brave and strong to think fresh, vibrant and daring new thoughts of what can be possible. 🦋

Remembrance Day

Tomorrow is Today

We can predict what we will experience in our future because right now we are creating it with our thoughts, emotional intelligence and habits. If your tomorrow is being built today, how’s it looking? 🦋

Doing Our Best

Under all circumstance we are always enough and always doing our best. 

If we are in self-judgement or critical of ourself or others, it is an inner signal, a nudge daring us to consciously stretch, grow and evolve more into our authentic power, to reimagine what is possible and then to make it so. 🦋

Winged By Faith

The underbelly of resistance is fear.

Fear is a highly motivating emotion that will always tell us what we value the most and what we need to do.

The more afraid we are of the change that presents itself, the more sure we can be that it is absolutely necessary for our personal or professional evolution.

Winged by faith, take the leap and soar to the heavenly vistas of living true. 🦋

Swallowed Up

Life will break you.

Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning.

You have to love.

You have to feel.

It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up.

And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness.

Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.

~ Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum

Authentically Alive

Listen to your highest, brightest and most elegant thoughts!

Feel your most effervescent and vivid feelings.

You are the only one who knows what is essential for you to thrive and feel fully alive.

Tap into your authenticity and live! 🦋

A Mental Boost

A few daily tips to boost our mental health. So easy to do. So easy not to do.

Simply it’s a daily choice that in time will become a habit, a habit that will transform how we experience our life, work and relationships.

Try it out for 3 days. Plan for it, do it and then let me know how you feel. 🦋

🏋️‍♂️ Exercise regularly

🍲 Eat healthy

😴 Get adequate sleep

🍺 Limit your alcohol intake

🗣 Talk about your feelings

👩🏻‍💼 Power Hour with Coach Judit

Authenticity Matters

In life, love and leadership, authenticity is the only currency that matters. 🦋

Brave Enough …

The Sound of Silence

Hello darkness, my old friend

I’ve come to talk with you again

Because a vision softly creeping

Left its seeds while I was sleeping

And the vision that was planted in my brain

Still remains

Within the sound of silence. 🦋

Rejoice In Your Challenges

Every challenge arrives into our life preordained to be alchemized into the most precious of gifts, to experience our highest self at play.

Rejoice in your challenges, your ‘wanting’ prayers have been meticulously answered. 🦋

WHY?

Many of us spend December 31st reflecting on our year, cherishing the happy moments, unpacking the challenging experiences, celebrating our wins and grieving our losses.

We meander through our past 364 days taking notes of how it will be different in the upcoming new year.

We start a list on how we will fix our bodies, finances, relationships, work and other aspects of our life that are not quite right or all together wrong.

We contemplate what we will need to stop or start doing so that the flaws will finally be banished, the glorious exalted and the big wins trophied.

Oh what a triumphant year it will be!

Tic Toc, it’s January 1st the new year has begun. Merrily we skip onto our field of dreams, spinning with joy, inhaling rainbows, daisies and unicorns.

Tic Toc, it’s February 15th, six weeks into the new year.

Describe what you are feeling. Successful? Fulfilled? Empowered to keep moving on the right path towards your hearts desire? Stuck in the same old rut? Wanting?

Now ask yourself this one fundamental question that will perpetually inspire you to build your platform for positive outcomes.

WHY? 🦋

2021, Respect Your Self

No matter what your goals plans or intentions are for the up coming new year, ( diet, exercise, money, career, relationships … ) cultivating a positive and loving relationship with yourself, the real you, is an essential first step to having your dreams come true. 🦋

 

Suffering Thoughts

Are you suffering your past or your future in the present? Why? Habit?

What is your story and how can you turn it around?

What can you do to stop the suffering thoughts, to surrender them, to rise up and thrive in your glorious power today? 🦋

Today Floats Tomorrow

Today triumphs over yesterday and it floats tomorrow. Love today. Own it ferociously because your success and happiness can only bloom in the here and now. Today is what matters most. Carpe Diem my friends. 🦋

Living The Dream

What is the ‘one’ cherished dream that is bursting to be welcomed into your life, that you will absolutely, for sure, make happen in 2021? 🦋

Take a F*@&in Break

It’s been a crazy year fraught with unbelievable challenges that have shaken up our world beyond recognition.

This is a reminder for all women everywhere that it is ok to stop, to let go, to get off the battlefield of life for even a moment or two.

Sending out love to all the warrior queens who make life work no matter what. Take a f*@&in break sisters and breathe! 🦋

Flanders Fields

It’s been 100 years since John McCrae, a doctor and soldier born in Guelph, wrote In Flanders Fields.

Inspired by the death of his comrade a day earlier, he is thought to have composed the piece in the back of an ambulance after a battle in Belgium.

Though he initially discarded his work, another soldier found and published what would become one of Canada’s most iconic poems. 🦋

Joy

Irregardless of the turmoil and chaos in the outer world, this week I am consciously choosing to connect to my inner joy, a deeply rooted unconditional acknowledgment of my inherent goodness, enoughness and wholeness.🦋

She is a Witch

A witch is a woman who emerges from deep within herself.

She is a woman who has honestly explored her light and learned to celebrate her darkness.

She is a woman who is able to fall in love with the magnificent possibilities of her power.

She is a woman who radiates mystery.

She is magnetic.

She is a witch. 🦋

~ Dasha Elliot

The Only Change

The moment of living authentically is the only change. 🦋

Best Life Today

Be grateful for all the beauty and the harshness you have witnessed throughout your lifetime, for both are gifts for living your best life today. 🦋

A Divine Spark

When we change our inner world of thoughts and feelings, our newly aligned behaviour begins to effect our outer world and we awaken to what we innately know that ‘yes’ we are a spark of the divine creating the moments of our life. 🦋

There. That’s It.

You know how
every once in a while
you do something
and the little voice
inside says
‘There. That’s it.
That’s why you’re here’
and you get
a warm glow
in your heart
because you know
it’s true?
Do more of that. 🦋

The Black Magicians

Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally…

Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in.

When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.

Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds…

Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up….

But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement.

~ Don Miguel Ruiz 🦋

Yes I Can

Universally, the most powerful words that all empowered women say to themselves is ‘Yes I can!’

These three simple words have courage, creative genius, power and magic built into them.

‘Yes I can.’ is the very stuff of dreams coming true.

Our Story

Our stories to ourself about who we are in any given situation can create tremendous feelings of joy, enthusiasm and empowerment or devastating feelings of misery, apathy and victimhood.

Interpretation, no matter its intent is always self-serving and usually in an unconscious default mode. However, it can also be a conscious choice that boosts our empowerment no matter the circumstances that we find ourselves in.

When we turn our story around for our own benefit we can feel our self-empowerment bloom. 🦋

We all have two lives. The life we are living and the unlived life striving to come alive.

What lies between our two worlds, is our daily practice of yielding to a dysfunctional and crippling force within us, our inner resistance, our irrational fear of living true.

The struggle and inevitable suffering that we feel is largely due to the frequency we acquiesce to our resistance. We give in to or go along with our fears without much awareness let alone protest.

We inadvertently up tick our self-loathing, we bury the best version of ourselves and we abandon the life of our dreams. We innocently move along the continuum of life in misery, believing that this is our lot in life. Although our safe, secure and comfortable life choices may be leading us down the road of unhappiness, blah lifelessness, we can at least rationalize the trade off. Right? Yes of course but at what cost?

The antidote? To accept that resistance is and always will be an essential aspect of of our psyche. It helps us to survive in the face of actual life threatening danger. However, we don’t need to yield to it’s misinterpretations and self-sabotage our intentions. We can learn to manage and transform its energy, to leverage our power to proactively thrive and live true.

Self-empowerment is a daily practice that affirms that we are the sovereigns of our life and to rule well is a disciplined thinking skill. 🦋

Expect To Thrive

Transformation begins when we choose to thrive in our lives, to shift our mindset from default survival mode to authentically defining who we are and crafting a life that fulfills our expectations. 🦋

Why Do We Struggle?

Do you ever wonder why you are struggling with the quality of your life, a relationship, financially, health and well-being, perhaps with your career or with your leadership?

Compassionately and with curiosity ask yourself ‘why am I struggling with _________?’

Observe, not only the thoughts that bubble up but also your unpleasant feelings.

Every struggle is a treasure trove, embrace it, accept it, feel it, and then decide how you are going to turn it around and start moving in the direction of a better experience.

Live Your Dream True

The future you are dreaming about is waiting for you to be lived true. Are you ready?

If you can say yes to the following questions, then you are ready or already on the path to manifesting your dream. Congratulations!

🔹Have you consciously claimed your dream to be yours to have, that is, do you truly believe you can live your dream true?

🔹Have you embodied the mindset of your future self living the dream true?

If yes, carry on, create your future with genuine commitment, grit and gusto.

If no, reach out to a life coach and together you will kickstart your journey forward, in the direction of living your dream true. 🦋

Marry Reality

Potential is fickle while everyday behaviour not only reveals today’s reality, it also foreshadows our tomorrow. 🦋

Happy Canada Day my friends! I am so grateful and honoured to call myself Canadian! To be able to live in the majestic beauty of this land, with my friends and family, in freedom and peace, surrounded by the richness and diversity that so many cultures gift us with, is a blessing that I cherish everyday. Eh?

I Am Worthy

No matter what you may be experiencing in your life, at work or in your relationships you are worthy.

No matter what is going on in your outer world, your worthiness is inherent and absolute.

Even if you have a contemptuous self-loathing relationship with yourself, your worthiness remains irrefutable.

Your self-destructive behaviour can not tamper with your worthiness.

The unpleasant and cutting opinions of others towards you, cannot inflict any damage on your worthiness.

Spiteful, jealous people shredding your character cannot quash your worthiness.

You are emphatically worthy. Period.

Imagine, how your life might be different if you believed that you are ever worthy. 🦋

2020, the tipping point, men and women of all races embracing their humanity for all sentient beings, for life itself. 🦋

What Would Love Do?

Love is always the answer. With love all conflict and chaos ends. Love inspires compassion, understanding, respect, appreciation, humanity … 🦋

Accepting What Is …

When we argue with what is, the facts or the truth about someone’s behaviour, the difficult circumstances we find ourselves in or perhaps the discomforting past, we find ourselves mentally and emotionally struggling, suffering or drowning in a tsunami of relentless pain.

Acceptance of what is, empowers us, it emboldens our courage to open that door in front of us and step into a new world of possibilities. 🦋

Let’s Begin Again

Let’s begin again. We have paused, reflected and felt the tug for more … life, joy, meaning and fulfillment. We’ve started to reimagine what our life could be. We’ve begun to ask ourselves the questions that dare us to reclaim that which matters most in the here and now. What do I really want? Why do I want it? How would I feel having it? Where do I begin? When do I take my first step? 🦋

Foreshadowing Outcomes

What we think affects how we feel, which in turn determines what we chose to do or not do, foreshadowing outcomes. 🦋

YO-YO-ING

Yes, we are human after all.

Right now, for many of us, our mental and emotional capacity, strength and resilience are being tested and stretched to their limits.

Most of us are yo-yo-ing through the restrictions and unpleasantness of living together yet separately in this unexpected covid-19 world.

One day, we are the hero’s and heroine’s of our story as we slay the slings and arrows of this outrageous pandemic and then the next day we can barely get out of bed let alone purge our house or write the next Pulitzer Prize book.

It’s okay to be zig zagging on our life’s continuum, to feel two things at the same time, to be grateful yet sad, energetic and productive yet lethargic and unmotivated.

Yes, we can be happy to have a home, food, health and safety, and yet feel angry about the unpleasant effects that COVID-19 is having on our lives.

Bottom-line, there is no right way to be, except to be real, honest and vulnerable with ourselves, to compassionately give ourselves permission to be whatever fits in the moment, to move through this ‘craziness’ one day at a time. 🦋

The Gift

The gift of Easter is hope, the divine anticipation of renewal, the glorious possibility of a new life. Happy Easter my friends. 🦋

In this historical moment, we are all united in a massive transformational shift, preparing ourselves to rise out of the ashes, renewed and ready for the world to reopen itself to the dawning of a new reality. 🦋

Stress Busters

When we’re stressed, hormones like cortisol flood our systems, producing the ‘fight flight or freeze response’ in which our heart rate goes up, we breathe more heavily and our blood vessels constrict. We don’t always have a choice when it comes to getting stressed, so we may as well work on undoing its effects. With that in mind, this photo has a few ways, backed up by scientific evidence, to keep our stress in check. 🦋

#resilience #adaptable #doingmypart #doingmybesteveryday #itsokaytobeokay #itsoktonotbeok #covid19

#coachjudit #vesselsofvision 🦋

🎶 SING 🎶

Yes there is fear.

Yes there is isolation.

Yes there is panic buying.

Yes there is sickness.

Yes there is even death.

But,

They say that in Wuhan after so many years of noise you can hear the birds again.

They say that after just a few weeks of quiet the sky is no longer thick with fumes but blue and grey and clear.

They say that in the streets of Assisi people are singing to each other across the empty squares,keeping their windows open so that those who are alone may hear the sounds of family around them.

They say that a hotel in the West of Ireland is offering free meals and delivery to the housebound.

Today a young woman I know is busy spreading fliers with her number through the neighbourhood so that the elders may have someone to call on.

Today Churches, Synagogues, Mosques and Temples are preparing to welcome and shelter the homeless, the sick, the weary

All over the world people are slowing down and reflecting.

All over the world people are looking at their neighbours in a new way.

All over the world people are waking up to a new reality, to how big we really are, how little control we really have and to what really matters.

To Love.

So we pray and we remember that yes there is fear. But there does not have to be hate.

Yes there is isolation. But there does not have to be loneliness.

Yes there is panic buying. But there does not have to be meanness.

Yes there is sickness. But there does not have to be disease of the soul

Yes there is even death. But there can always be a rebirth of love.

Wake to the choices you make as to how to live now.

Today, breathe.

Listen, behind the factory noises of your panic.

The birds are singing again

The sky is clearing,

Spring is coming,

And we are always encompassed by Love.

Open the windows of your soul and though you may not be able to touch across the empty square,

Sing.

~ Richard Hendrick (Brother Richard) in Ireland

March 13th 2020

Breath 4-7-8

Resonant breathing, also called coherent breathing, can help us calm our anxiety, stress, overwhelm, and help us to get into a more relaxed state.

Deep breathing increases the supply of oxygen to our brain and stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes a state of calmness.

I personally use and recommend to my clients the 4-7-8 breathing technique, that focuses on the following breathing pattern:

* empty the lungs of air.

* breathe in quietly through the nose for 4 seconds.

* hold the breath for a count of 7 seconds.

* exhale forcefully through the mouth, pursing the lips and making a “whoosh” sound, for 8 seconds.

* repeat the cycle up to 2-4 times.

I promise you that when you do this correctly, it will greatly reduce your anxiety, stress or overwhelm. 🦋

Pragmatic Optimism

‘Pragmatic Optimism’ is knowing that everything will be ok while we follow the recommendations made by authorities, showing good citizenship, being socially responsible and staying at home. 🦋

And the people stayed home.

And read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still.img_3564

And listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently. And the people healed.

And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.

And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.

~ Kitty O’Meara

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Coach Judit

Everything is going to be alright. Intuitively, we know this. We also know that we are strong, powerful and resilient.

Globally, we know that the pandemic will flatten, the dust will settle and we will return to normal, a slightly altered normal but normal nevertheless.

Let us remember…

That cool heads prevail, to discern the facts from the drama. To be informed but to stop news binging. To talk ourselves down from our anxiety by disproving our fear based inner dialogue with actual facts. 

And …

To breath deeply, to reduce our anxiety quickly and naturally.

To journal about our thoughts and feelings with pen and paper.

Review our options.

To think creatively.

Act responsibly, follow the rules laid out by our government and medical officials.

Focus our attention on daily random acts of kindness, ours and others.

Fear is normal, leverage it, get proactive, creative and productive.

Also …

Clean, organize and purge your home, car, office, electronic files ….

Start that creative project you’ve been thinking about.

Learn something new, read watch a documentary or e-learning …

Go for walks in the park. Play with your children. Jog. Meditate. Workout …

Reach out with a helping hand to the vulnerable and frail in your community.

Mend those fences, forgive and make peace.

Watch or listen to comedy! Dance! Listen to nature sounds, meditative music and your favourite bands, musicians.

Engage …

This is our time to govern our thoughts and feelings, open our heart and reach out to others with a helping hand and kindness.

If there was ever a time to have an immersive self-empowerment experience it’s now. Consciously, let us embody our authentic power and move forward with our innate creative power.

You are not alone, we are in this crisis together …

If you have positive, empowering, proactive, or pragmatic thoughts and recommendations to share, please comment below. 🦋

You Are The Decider

Nothing can trigger you except for your own perspective.

Nothing can restrain you except for your unruly imagination.

Nothing can control you except for your own unquestioned beliefs.

You are the source that reacts to people, situations and the world.

You are the decider, determining the quality of your experiences. 🦋

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