Cruelty is deliberately causing or wanting to cause another pain or suffering and not being sorry or remorseful about it. Usually, our stance is self-righteous and we feel justified in our harshness.
Gossiping, character assassination, spreading false rumours, humiliating, criticizing, polarizing and ostracizing are a few examples of active cruelty in the workplace and in our personal relationships.
Yes, it’s ok to be angry, upset, frustrated and disappointed but it is never ok to covertly or openly lash out with the intent to hurt another and then be smugly ok about it.
Taking responsibility for our emotions is emotional intelligence. To be emotionally intelligent is a self-empowering discipline worthy of our attention and effort. It is the capacity and practice of being self-aware, self-control, effectively expressing our emotions and being able to interact with others objectively with compassion and empathy.
Emotional Intelligence is considered to be the bedrock of personal and professional success.
To learn more about Emotional Intelligence, I highly recommend Daniel Goleman’s book ‘Emotional Intelligence’.
Trust yourself, as you stand on the threshhold of a new beginning.
Trust the magical promise of what can be.
Trust your destiny unfolding as it is meant to.
The answer you are seeking is inherent in the question, ‘What would love do?’
Stay curious my friends and you will be forever young. Curiosity ignites our whole being into a fervent arousal, pulsating with enthusiasm, passion, and a desire to explore the unknown, to learn and understand something new about someone or something. Today ask yourself, ‘what am I really curious about’ and then dare yourself to satisfy the tingling buzz. Remember, the future belongs to the curious.
It is through the process of ‘struggling’ that we are compelled to tap into our potential, to breathe life into our dormant abilities and to do things we never thought possible. Struggling is an opportunity to exercise our courage, to become mentally and emotionally stronger, and most importantly to deepen our trust in ourselves. When a challenge emerges in our lives we need to own it, leap into the fray and move through it the best that we can. Turning away from or giving up in the midst of struggling is a natural response however, we are inherently entitled for more than what desertion could ever offer us, we are divinely anointed to be the victorious heroine or hero of our own story.
Setting boundaries is healthy self-care. When we say ‘no’ without guilt or shame, we are signalling self-respect, integrity and our commitment to living our lives authentically.
‘I choose to be me’ is every self-empowered woman’s mantra, philosophy and religion.