We can predict what we will experience in our future because right now we are creating it with our thoughts, emotional intelligence and habits. If your tomorrow is being built today, how’s it looking? 🦋
Archive for the ‘Life’ Category
It’s been 100 years since John McCrae, a doctor and soldier born in Guelph, wrote In Flanders Fields.
Inspired by the death of his comrade a day earlier, he is thought to have composed the piece in the back of an ambulance after a battle in Belgium.
Though he initially discarded his work, another soldier found and published what would become one of Canada’s most iconic poems. 🦋
Potential is fickle while everyday behaviour not only reveals today’s reality, it also foreshadows our tomorrow. 🦋
Happy Canada Day my friends! I am so grateful and honoured to call myself Canadian! To be able to live in the majestic beauty of this land, with my friends and family, in freedom and peace, surrounded by the richness and diversity that so many cultures gift us with, is a blessing that I cherish everyday. Eh?
No matter what you may be experiencing in your life, at work or in your relationships you are worthy.
No matter what is going on in your outer world, your worthiness is inherent and absolute.
Even if you have a contemptuous self-loathing relationship with yourself, your worthiness remains irrefutable.
Your self-destructive behaviour can not tamper with your worthiness.
The unpleasant and cutting opinions of others towards you, cannot inflict any damage on your worthiness.
Spiteful, jealous people shredding your character cannot quash your worthiness.
You are emphatically worthy. Period.
Imagine, how your life might be different if you believed that you are ever worthy. 🦋
2020, the tipping point, men and women of all races embracing their humanity for all sentient beings, for life itself. 🦋
Yes, we are human after all.
Right now, for many of us, our mental and emotional capacity, strength and resilience are being tested and stretched to their limits.
Most of us are yo-yo-ing through the restrictions and unpleasantness of living together yet separately in this unexpected covid-19 world.
One day, we are the hero’s and heroine’s of our story as we slay the slings and arrows of this outrageous pandemic and then the next day we can barely get out of bed let alone purge our house or write the next Pulitzer Prize book.
It’s okay to be zig zagging on our life’s continuum, to feel two things at the same time, to be grateful yet sad, energetic and productive yet lethargic and unmotivated.
Yes, we can be happy to have a home, food, health and safety, and yet feel angry about the unpleasant effects that COVID-19 is having on our lives.
Bottom-line, there is no right way to be, except to be real, honest and vulnerable with ourselves, to compassionately give ourselves permission to be whatever fits in the moment, to move through this ‘craziness’ one day at a time. 🦋
The gift of Easter is hope, the divine anticipation of renewal, the glorious possibility of a new life. Happy Easter my friends. 🦋
When we’re stressed, hormones like cortisol flood our systems, producing the ‘fight flight or freeze response’ in which our heart rate goes up, we breathe more heavily and our blood vessels constrict. We don’t always have a choice when it comes to getting stressed, so we may as well work on undoing its effects. With that in mind, this photo has a few ways, backed up by scientific evidence, to keep our stress in check. 🦋
Yes there is fear.
Yes there is isolation.
Yes there is panic buying.
Yes there is sickness.
Yes there is even death.
They say that in Wuhan after so many years of noise you can hear the birds again.
They say that after just a few weeks of quiet the sky is no longer thick with fumes but blue and grey and clear.
They say that in the streets of Assisi people are singing to each other across the empty squares,keeping their windows open so that those who are alone may hear the sounds of family around them.
They say that a hotel in the West of Ireland is offering free meals and delivery to the housebound.
Today a young woman I know is busy spreading fliers with her number through the neighbourhood so that the elders may have someone to call on.
Today Churches, Synagogues, Mosques and Temples are preparing to welcome and shelter the homeless, the sick, the weary
All over the world people are slowing down and reflecting.
All over the world people are looking at their neighbours in a new way.
All over the world people are waking up to a new reality, to how big we really are, how little control we really have and to what really matters.
So we pray and we remember that yes there is fear. But there does not have to be hate.
Yes there is isolation. But there does not have to be loneliness.
Yes there is panic buying. But there does not have to be meanness.
Yes there is sickness. But there does not have to be disease of the soul
Yes there is even death. But there can always be a rebirth of love.
Wake to the choices you make as to how to live now.
Listen, behind the factory noises of your panic.
The birds are singing again
The sky is clearing,
Spring is coming,
And we are always encompassed by Love.
Open the windows of your soul and though you may not be able to touch across the empty square,
~ Richard Hendrick (Brother Richard) in Ireland
March 13th 2020
Resonant breathing, also called coherent breathing, can help us calm our anxiety, stress, overwhelm, and help us to get into a more relaxed state.
Deep breathing increases the supply of oxygen to our brain and stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes a state of calmness.
I personally use and recommend to my clients the 4-7-8 breathing technique, that focuses on the following breathing pattern:
* empty the lungs of air.
* breathe in quietly through the nose for 4 seconds.
* hold the breath for a count of 7 seconds.
* exhale forcefully through the mouth, pursing the lips and making a “whoosh” sound, for 8 seconds.
* repeat the cycle up to 2-4 times.
I promise you that when you do this correctly, it will greatly reduce your anxiety, stress or overwhelm. 🦋
And the people stayed home.
And read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still.
And listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently. And the people healed.
And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.
And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.
~ Kitty O’Meara
How might your life be different if you decided to stop tolerating or suffering your own thoughts, void of clarity, confidence and courage.
How would your life be different if you dared yourself to move out of your comfort zone, tackled your fears and gave your self permission to live a more authentic version of whom you are?
Mmmm, imagine the joy, freedom, expansiveness, passion, aliveness, you would feel if you dared yourself to experience the life which is in your heart.
What are three things you can do today to start moving in the direction of your dreams? 🦋
Challenges are significant opportunities waiting to be enlivened. Appreciative inquiry, attentiveness and proactivity can alchemize our challenges into golden moments of good fortune.🦋
How might your life be different if you believed that you are loved, lovable and loving? 🦋
2020, freedom from or freedom for?
With each New Year Resolution that we commit to there are things we need to stop doing to create the space for the betterment of our life to take root. What will you stop doing in 2020? 🦋
Many do not want to forgive because they have a misguided belief that by holding on to their anger, hatred or resentment is somehow punishing the other person. Wrong! That is not the case.
Rather, withholding forgiveness is akin to drinking poison with the hope that the other person will die. They won’t!
Forgive them for your own peace of mind, healing and freedom. You deserve to reclaim your power, your life. 🦋
A toxic person is usually characterized as being insecure, self-centred, jealous, manipulative, domineering and controlling.
How do you know if you are in relationship with a toxic person? They tend to suck the sweetness out of your life and emotionally shred you.
The following are 10 common signs that a person is toxic;
🦋 You’re left feeling emotionally exhausted after spending time with them.
🦋 They try to intimidate, blame or shame you to get their way.
🦋 They try control you with guilt.
🦋 They easily anger and lash out.
🦋 They can’t take ‘no’ as an answer.
🦋 They see themselves as a victim, to garner attention and sympathy.
🦋 They give ambiguous back-handed compliments.
🦋 They have no respect for your boundaries.
🦋 They don’t take responsibility for their own feelings.
🦋 They are self-centred, uncaring and unsupportive.
Essentially, toxic people are not interested in you and your life. They are interested in how you can be an asset for them, how they can use you for their own benefit.
You cannot change them!
You deserve to have respectful, supportive and appreciative people in your life. Life is too short to spend time with people who don’t inspire you to be your best self, living your authentic life.
I hope you will use this post as a springboard to immunize yourself against the toxic people in your life, to walk away! 🦋
I think one of the most destructive beliefs we have about relationships is that our partner is responsible for meeting our needs. This belief is not only wrong, it is toxic poison, that destroys most relationships.
To be clear, he or she is not obligated to fulfilling your needs, you are. In turn, you are free from the nonsensical notion that it is your job to fulfill his or her needs.
However, and this is key for a thriving relationship, you are both equally responsible for meeting the needs of your relationship.🦋
Discomfort is the currency of success in life, love and leadership. If you feel uncomfortable, out of your depth, overwhelmed or scared then know that you have inadvertently stumbled or intentionally pitched yourself out of your loathsome yet comfortable rut. You are on a life altering adventure, moving towards the light of where you belong, your brilliant life, career and relationship. Lean in, level up and just keep going. You’ve got this. 🦋
How to simplify life?#clarify #illuminate #streamline #detach, #purge, #sayno, #sayyes, #bereal #detox #eliminate #walkaway, #beonpurpose, #slowdown, #exhale #disentangle #withdraw #stop #start #disconnect … and then inhale your freedom and live. 🦋
I will never be fearless nor do I want to be. Fear is my ally. When fear creeps into my thoughts I know I’m on the right path. Fear alerts me that what I’m about to do is important for my soul’s calling, my personal evolution and empowerment When fear slithers into my consciousness it signals that it is time to suit up with courage and get moving in the direction of my heart’s desire. 🦋
With commitment we can never fail. Without commitment we will fail. If it’s important we commit 100% . If it’s sort of important, we will sort of commit and then wonder why something is not working out as we had hoped. Outcomes never lie. Go all in for yourself, make the commitment, take the risk and ride the tiger to the end. 🦋
‘Creating New Realities’ begins with understanding the unifying trinity that underpins our experiences throughout our lifetime. 🦋
With her commitment to self-knowledge and self-awareness, an empowered woman is able to wield her power to choose her response in all situations and circumstances. She knows that her freedom and the quality of her life is inherent in her day to day choices. 🦋
The compelling reason for almost everything we do or not do is to feel one of our coveted feelings. What are your coveted feelings and what do you usually do to feel them? 🦋
Never give up on ‘being in love’. Never compromise your heart’s desire to love and to be loved deeply.
You weren’t born to settle for crumbs so stop accommodating your fears and start living in love. 🦋
If you want to craft a new life start with purging, organizing and cleaning your home, office, car … This simple process, big or small, will literally clear your mind, energize you physically and emotionally catapult you to new heights. I would love to hear about your personal clearing process and the subsequent redirection of your life. 🦋
Love is love. 🦋
Thoughts inspire feelings. Change your thoughts and you will feel differently. Yes, but you can’t really change your thinking until you are aware of your thoughts and you understand them. 🦋
The question ‘why’ is a door way into our inner world, our thoughts, the driving force of all of our experiences. Here are a few ‘why’ questions you may want to ask yourself. Warning, these questions may inspire you to own your power. Why am I choosing to think that? Why am I choosing to feel that? Why am I choosing to do that? Why am I choosing to create that. Why am I choosing to sabotage that? Why am I choosing to doubt myself? Why am I procrastinating? Why am I overweight, in debt, struggling at work, still in this relationship, not in a relationship … 🦋
When it comes to having a healthy, happy and thriving relationship, choose love, respect and appreciation over need.
Need, is a toxic poison that tends to create a jailer-prisoner dynamic that can destroy the ultimate destination of your relationship, ‘and they lived happily ever after’. 🦋
The difference between an authentic life and a life by default is the willingness to overcome the beguiling pull of resistance, to rest in the security of what is known, to sustain the comfortable, easy and safe status quo. 🦋
Believing that everything is figureoutable is what keeps our dreams alive long enough for them to blossom into fulfillment. 🦋
So, why not you? If they can be, do and have what they desire, then why not you? How are you less deserving? 🦋
What we resist will persist. What we resist we become. We think we are resisting undesirable situations because they are present in our lives, but the truth is that the unwanted circumstances are in our lives because we are resisting them. The moment we accept what we have been resisting a void appears and our creative juices begin to flow in the direction of what we truly want to experience. If you decided to stop resisting and started creating, what three things would happen? 🦋
If your life was a 10 for you, what three things would be happening? 🦋
You can never lose a friend! You can only lose a pretender, hater or foe. 🦋
A balanced life starts with chocolate and wine in both hands. Happy Friday! 🦋
How do you know if they are the one? You love them just as they are, you don’t feel compelled to control nor change them. They in turn love, respect and accept you as you are. 🦋
Today, ‘action’ with intent rather than habit. Determine your desired outcome. Mindfully take inspired action. When your desire, intent and action are consciously aligned, you will observe synchronicity at play and whoosh a new reality is created. This is the power of your conscious intent. 🦋
Happy Easter My Friends! Wishing you the gift of family and friends gathering and the joy of sharing all good things. 🦋
Beautiful thoughts create a beautiful life. Ugly thoughts spawn an ugly life. Yes, it’s that simple because you and only you can think your thoughts. You are the thinker of your thoughts, the creator of your experiences. 🦋
Start with fear clamouring in your heart.
Start with your suppressive self-doubt.
Start with your aching unhappiness.
Start with your tattered self-worth.
Start with your despairing loneliness.
Start with your not ready, unpreparedness.
Start with all that you have and have not.
Start with what you know and what you don’t know.
Start where you are, as you are.
Start today with one simple, safe, easy step.
Name it! Own it! Now Do It! Today! 🦋
What you see is what you get!
Patterns of behaviour very rarely change and they never lie. When you are choosing a life partner do so with the knowledge that what you are observing now you will be experiencing tomorrow and forevermore.
Choosing a life partner is perhaps the most important decision you will ever make because it will affect both the quality and the experiences of your shared life and the lives of your children.
In relationship matters, absolutely follow your heart that is overflowing with love, but also listen to your intuition and heed your keen observational intelligence. 🦋
In addition to having a crystal clear vision of what a successful life looks like, starting over requires a renewed consciousness that is free of past limiting thoughts and false beliefs.
Starting over requires a vitality, an inner-persistence that can smash through our past ignorance and gather the golden nuggets of truth upon which a renewed life can be created upon. 🦋