Thriving Tips & Thoughts

Life’s Secret Sauce …

Self-love is a divine illumination that liberates our hearts and minds to be an authentic force for the goodness of ourselves and others. It is the secret sauce for a beautiful life lived well.

Self-love is the transformative alchemy we are all searching for to fix our messy lives, to cast out the darkness from our hearts, to right our wrongs, to breakthrough the barriers of our misguided creations, to reimagine our destiny and to recommit ourselves to the infinite wisdom of our collective oneness – we are in this game together.

Happy Valentines Day! 🦋

The One …

If they spark your soul you have met the one!

If they don’t spark your soul then in all likelihood you are making a complacent choice.

Junk food eating couch potatoes make complacent choices.

When it comes to love don’t be a couch potato, go for it, go for the spark. 🦋

Carry On or Reimagine?

Wondering why the quality of your life experiences are what they are?

Listen to your thoughts, self-talk, judgments and interpretations.

Feel your feelings.

Witness your reactions, behaviour and deeds.

Without exception everything we feel, do, and experience are the results of our thoughts of whom we believe we are.

Inherently, by design, we are free to choose what we think, what we believe.

We can choose to carry on or we can choose to reimagine. 🦋

How might your life be different if you believed that you are loved, lovable and loving? 🦋

Happy New Year 2020

2020, freedom from or freedom for?

Stop It

With each New Year Resolution that we commit to there are things we need to stop doing to create the space for the betterment of our life to take root. What will you stop doing in 2020? 🦋

Extraordinarily Limitless

We live our self-enhancing or self-debilitating thoughts. When we deliberately empower our mind with beliefs that focus on our ability to create desired outcomes, our life experiences become extraordinarily limitless. 🦋

And Then It Happens

And then it happens…

One day you wake up and you’re in this place.

You’re in this place where everything feels right.

Your heart is calm.

Your soul is lit.

Your thoughts are positive. Your vision is clear.

You’re at peace, at peace with where you’ve been, at peace with what you’ve been through and at peace with where you’re headed. 🦋

Seek To Do Good

When we seek to do good, we begin to see the power of goodness all around us and our faith in humanity begins to swell in our hearts. 🦋

Reclaiming Our Power

Throughout the years, I have met and coached woman in positional power who believed that being aggressive, arrogant and irreverent was the persona of a powerful person. It turned out that it wasn’t and they eventually derailed their leadership effectiveness.

Through the process of self-empowerment coaching, my clients discovered that underneath their contemptuousness was imposter syndrome, the fear of being found out that she was a phoney, that her self-confidence was wobbly and inconsistent and that she was often plagued with self-doubt.

Our coaching sessions were focused on bringing forth her inherently empowered authentic-self, which resulted in a natural and observable transformation.

An empowered woman who knows and respects herself radiates an authentic confidence, she is grace under fire and she interacts with people with interest, respect and compassion. Empowered woman understand the strength and purpose of their power and they proudly wield it to inspire, create and to positively influence her world. 🦋

Authenticity Slays Shame

Shame is an inner-focused, painful emotion that encompasses the entire sense of self. It distorts a person’s self image to the point that they cannot see nor relate to their deeply buried authentic selves.

Shame is an IRRATIONAL feeling of worthlessness, humiliation and self loathing that leads to an overall feeling of paralysis that profoundly sabotages a person’s life.

Internalized shame ruins lives, it stops individuals from experiencing professional success and it derails significant relationships.

With the support of a professional therapist or transformational life coach, shame can be dismantled and a person’s self-esteem and life rebuilt. 🦋

Love, Quest & Daring

Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.

I use the word “love” here not merely in the personal sense but as a state of being, or a state of grace – not in the infantile American sense of being made happy but in the tough and universal sense of quest and daring and growth.

~ James Baldwin 🦋

When we listen to the whispers of our soul and the call of our heart, life seems to align to our authenticity and we begin to create and live from our own natural flow. 🦋

Recalibrating Self

Being authentic is an ongoing process – our false sense of self recalibrating to our inherent worth. It is not a panacea for perfection rather it is our commitment to feel that we are enough, complete and whole. 🦋

To Do It, Is to Do It

There is no mystery to getting things done. It’s a decision powered by our will to achieve. We make up our minds to view ourselves as accomplished doers, we do it and then we bask in the glory of having succeeded. Whether it’s cleaning out our closet or building an empire, the doers aim is the same, to have something desired. Yes, it’s as simple as that.🦋

Self-Respect Says No!

Boundaries! If someone reacts to you reinforcing your boundaries, it demonstrates that they are needed. Stay strong. 🦋

Invest in Yourself

When we invest in ourselves, it is a commitment that lasts forever.

Invest in your mind, body, education, creativity and experiences, that guarantee a lifetime of personal and professional empowerment. 🦋

Love Guaranteed …

To be loved by another is a beautiful thing, however, the love of self is the real deal, permanent, perfect and guaranteed for life. 🦋

Awakened

Awake, we always have a choice to do it differently! 🦋

Danger! Poison!

Many do not want to forgive because they have a misguided belief that by holding on to their anger, hatred or resentment is somehow punishing the other person. Wrong! That is not the case.

Rather, withholding forgiveness is akin to drinking poison with the hope that the other person will die. They won’t!

Forgive them for your own peace of mind, healing and freedom. You deserve to reclaim your power, your life. 🦋

Odyssey, A Return Home

The return home to Self is an Odyssey, a journey of love, appreciation and respect.🦋

Walk Away!

A toxic person is usually characterized as being insecure, self-centred, jealous, manipulative, domineering and controlling.

How do you know if you are in relationship with a toxic person? They tend to suck the sweetness out of your life and emotionally shred you.

The following are 10 common signs that a person is toxic;

🦋 You’re left feeling emotionally exhausted after spending time with them.

🦋 They try to intimidate, blame or shame you to get their way.

🦋 They try control you with guilt.

🦋 They easily anger and lash out.

🦋 They can’t take ‘no’ as an answer.

🦋 They see themselves as a victim, to garner attention and sympathy.

🦋 They give ambiguous back-handed compliments.

🦋 They have no respect for your boundaries.

🦋 They don’t take responsibility for their own feelings.

🦋 They are self-centred, uncaring and unsupportive.

Essentially, toxic people are not interested in you and your life. They are interested in how you can be an asset for them, how they can use you for their own benefit.

You cannot change them!

You deserve to have respectful, supportive and appreciative people in your life. Life is too short to spend time with people who don’t inspire you to be your best self, living your authentic life.

I hope you will use this post as a springboard to immunize yourself against the toxic people in your life, to walk away! 🦋

Fulfill It For Yourself

I think one of the most destructive beliefs we have about relationships is that our partner is responsible for meeting our needs. This belief is not only wrong, it is toxic poison, that destroys most relationships.

To be clear, he or she is not obligated to fulfilling your needs, you are. In turn, you are free from the nonsensical notion that it is your job to fulfill his or her needs.

However, and this is key for a thriving relationship, you are both equally responsible for meeting the needs of your relationship.🦋

Our Superpower

Have the courage to trust your intuition, the whisperings of your soul, your superpower that knows the answer before you ask the question. If something feels right it is right for you and if it doesn’t, walk away. 🦋

Discomfort is the currency of success in life, love and leadership. If you feel uncomfortable, out of your depth, overwhelmed or scared then know that you have inadvertently stumbled or intentionally pitched yourself out of your loathsome yet comfortable rut. You are on a life altering adventure, moving towards the light of where you belong, your brilliant life, career and relationship. Lean in, level up and just keep going. You’ve got this. 🦋

Love Is

Absence fans the fire of true love. 🦋

Simply Simplify

How to simplify life?#clarify #illuminate #streamline #detach, #purge, #sayno, #sayyes, #bereal #detox #eliminate #walkaway, #beonpurpose, #slowdown, #exhale #disentangle #withdraw #stop #start #disconnect … and then inhale your freedom and live. 🦋

Fear Is My Ally

I will never be fearless nor do I want to be. Fear is my ally. When fear creeps into my thoughts I know I’m on the right path. Fear alerts me that what I’m about to do is important for my soul’s calling, my personal evolution and empowerment When fear slithers into my consciousness it signals that it is time to suit up with courage and get moving in the direction of my heart’s desire. 🦋

Ride the Tiger

With commitment we can never fail. Without commitment we will fail. If it’s important we commit 100% . If it’s sort of important, we will sort of commit and then wonder why something is not working out as we had hoped. Outcomes never lie. Go all in for yourself, make the commitment, take the risk and ride the tiger to the end. 🦋

The Unifying Trinity

‘Creating New Realities’ begins with understanding the unifying trinity that underpins our experiences throughout our lifetime. 🦋

The Freedom To Choose

With her commitment to self-knowledge and self-awareness, an empowered woman is able to wield her power to choose her response in all situations and circumstances. She knows that her freedom and the quality of her life is inherent in her day to day choices. 🦋

My Compelling Reason?

The compelling reason for almost everything we do or not do is to feel one of our coveted feelings. What are your coveted feelings and what do you usually do to feel them? 🦋

Busy?

Living In Love

Never give up on ‘being in love’. Never compromise your heart’s desire to love and to be loved deeply.

You weren’t born to settle for crumbs so stop accommodating your fears and start living in love. 🦋

Indestructible

The one person you will live with throughout your life time is you. You might as well reclaim your own ground and lovingly embrace your beautiful soul. To know and understand your ‘self’ makes you indestructible, in that nothing and no one can threaten your sense of wellbeing. 🦋

Purging For Renewal

If you want to craft a new life start with purging, organizing and cleaning your home, office, car … This simple process, big or small, will literally clear your mind, energize you physically and emotionally catapult you to new heights. I would love to hear about your personal clearing process and the subsequent redirection of your life. 🦋

Be The Love …

Love is love. 🦋

Thoughts inspire feelings. Change your thoughts and you will feel differently. Yes, but you can’t really change your thinking until you are aware of your thoughts and you understand them. 🦋

WHY?

The question ‘why’ is a door way into our inner world, our thoughts, the driving force of all of our experiences. Here are a few ‘why’ questions you may want to ask yourself. Warning, these questions may inspire you to own your power. Why am I choosing to think that? Why am I choosing to feel that? Why am I choosing to do that? Why am I choosing to create that. Why am I choosing to sabotage that? Why am I choosing to doubt myself? Why am I procrastinating? Why am I overweight, in debt, struggling at work, still in this relationship, not in a relationship … 🦋

When it comes to having a healthy, happy and thriving relationship, choose love, respect and appreciation over need.

Need, is a toxic poison that tends to create a jailer-prisoner dynamic that can destroy the ultimate destination of your relationship, ‘and they lived happily ever after’. 🦋

Emotional suffering is a choice, a habit that supports the nonsensical notion, that ‘they’ not you are responsible for what you think and thus what you feel.

No one can force you to think your thoughts nor feel your feelings. You are the author of your suffering.

To stop your self-inflicted suffering, begin with telling yourself a different story. 🦋

The difference between an authentic life and a life by default is the willingness to overcome the beguiling pull of resistance, to rest in the security of what is known, to sustain the comfortable, easy and safe status quo. 🦋

It’s Figureoutable

Believing that everything is figureoutable is what keeps our dreams alive long enough for them to blossom into fulfillment. 🦋

Why Not You?

So, why not you? If they can be, do and have what they desire, then why not you? How are you less deserving? 🦋

Are You Awake?

Are you awake to your true nature, purpose, and the essence of your empowerment? If you are, then I know you are living your personal vision, an authentic, meaningful and fulfilling life. 🦋

Listen to your stories, they reveal an identity pattern, which reflects who you believe you are.

According to most Jungian psychologists, there are seven feminine archetypes that influence us in our daily lives – the mother, the maiden, the queen, the huntress, the wise woman, the mystic and the lover.

The presence of these archetypes in our psyches account for the major behavioural differences among women.

At the first blush, which archetype(s) do you relate to the most? 🦋

What we resist will persist. What we resist we become. We think we are resisting undesirable situations because they are present in our lives, but the truth is that the unwanted circumstances are in our lives because we are resisting them. The moment we accept what we have been resisting a void appears and our creative juices begin to flow in the direction of what we truly want to experience. If you decided to stop resisting and started creating, what three things would happen? 🦋

10

If your life was a 10 for you, what three things would be happening? 🦋

Be You! That is your superpower! There is nothing more beautiful, inspiring or powerful than a woman unapologetically being herself. The true essence of beauty is authentic fluency, the language of self awareness, respect and confidence. You are extraordinary, be you. It is enough, more than enough! 🦋

Own Your Crown

All woman are gloriously powerful beyond earthly measure and yet only a few brave hearts will dare to own their luminous crown and wield their magical sceptre, to rebirth their divine right to be happy, whole and successful! Be that proud self-empowered woman! We need the reemergence of your feminine power. 🦋

Friends Are Forever

You can never lose a friend! You can only lose a pretender, hater or foe. 🦋

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