When we decide to affirm our authentic selves, we are choosing freedom from the drama and complexities that our ego relishes.
We simplify our inner world and our outer life by letting go of everything and everyone, past and present, that are unimportant, unnecessary and burdensome.
We engage in all things that are genuinely essential and that generously inspire our heart and head to be passionately on purpose with our gifts and talents that we’ve been blessed with to, in turn, gift the world with.
We simplify to live in the present fully alive.
When we simplify, we thrive in the transparency, beauty and peacefulness of our true selves. 🦋
Unguarded overthinking is akin to a gaggle of toddlers running through the playground with sharp scissors-not good-potentially harmful.
If you are overthinking, most likely, you are obsessively worrying about your problems, challenges or an unpleasant situation.
All burdensome thoughts are opportunities in disguise, cleverly appealing to us through one of our strongest emotions, fear.
The best way I know how to untangle fear is to question it and have it provide evidence that what you fear is accurate. Through inquiry, the falsity of your fear loses its grip on your mind, and your mind begins to open up to new possibilities.
The next time you catch yourself overthinking, question your thoughts and observe how the inquiry process…
🌸 transforms your mindset from being challenged to being proactive,
🌸 encourages you to discern what you genuinely want to experience,
🌸 helps you to determine the best way forward,
🌸 inspires you to take the first few steps towards realizing your new opportunites.
Remember, the cause of your problems is not out there. They are mere thoughts ready to be turned around. 🦋
Authenticity Life Coaching helps you to consciously create a life that you not only deserve to live but are destined to live – a life driven by passion and purpose that you empower daily with a clear vision of who you are and what is essential for you to thrive across every aspect of your life. 🦋
When we imitate others for the safety of belonging, we walk down the wrong path toward suffering.
Luckily, our heart is true to whom we truly are; she will kick up an emotional storm to grab our attention to help us shift back onto our authentic path by embracing our original selves.
Our unpleasant, dark emotions are not to be feared, for they are intentionally disrupting our lives to help us to stop, to pause long enough to look within to reconnect to what is real and essential, our bliss. 🦋
One of the gifts or benefits of being more authentic is having a profound inner sense of freedom.
Freedom to make our own choices, express ourselves without fearing negative repercussions, and honour our values, passions, talents and purpose.
The following is a simple yet revealing three-point questionnaire that will uncover how consciously you are connected to your authentic self and the degree that you own your true self in your day-to-day life;
🌀 How much freedom do you have to make your own choices based on what you need/desire to feel whole, happy, and fulfilled?
🌀 How comfortable are you with expressing your own ideas, views and opinions in your relationships, at work and as a leader?
🌀 How often in a day do you feel authentic, fully expressing yourself, not play-acting to fulfill the expectations of others and society?
I suggest answering the three questions with one of the following responses;
🌀 I don’t know.
🌀 Not free.
🌀 Somewhat or sometimes free.
🌀 100% Free.
Authentic women own their inherent right to experience their freedom to be, do and have that which is true to their nature. 🦋
Today we live in a culture that advocates that a woman can ‘do it all’. Yes, of course, we can but at what cost?
Many women are experiencing low-grade burnout, compromised mental health, cognitive dissonance, and relentless fatigue.
Overextended and depleted, women are searching for solutions and many are turning to authenticity life coaching as a means to correct their inner-outer imbalance, to restore and sustain their sense of equanimity, joy and vitality.
As an authenticity life coach, I support my clients to…
🌸 Become more conscious of their authentic selves.
🌸 Develop a self-empowering mindset.
🌸 Proactively thrive in their multi-faceted life.
Authenticity is the holy grail that enhances our capacity to empower our life positively.
You are smart, capable and successful, yet deep down, you are terrified that at any time, you will be exposed as a fraud, a fake.
I just described imposter syndrome, a feeling in which accomplished women discredit their achievements and victories and believe that one day they will be found out.
Some signs of impostor syndrome include:
🌸 Crediting luck or timing as reasons for your success.
🌸 You are afraid of being seen as imperfect or a failure.
🌸 You believe that the only way to meet expectations is by overworking.
🌸 You don’t believe you are worthy of attention or affection.
🌸 You downplay your accomplishments.
🌸 You tend to procrastinate and hold back from reaching attainable goals.
Some steps to consider to overcome your imposter syndrome….
🌸 Realize that you are not alone in believing that you are a fraud. Indeed, it is estimated that 70% of individuals worldwide have experienced imposter syndrome at some point in their lives.
🌸 Acknowledge your potential and own your achievements both mentally and emotionally.
🌸 Identify and respect your feelings and fears and then put them to the side. Write out all of your achievements and success to date.
🌸 Stop comparing yourself to others by holding your achievements up against theirs; instead, focus on measuring your successes.
🌸 Hire a qualified life coach, like myself who can assist you with turning your thoughts, feelings and behaviour away from believing that you are a fake by supporting you with owning your authenticity and building your future on your actual strengths, accomplishments and successes. 🦋
The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s life is the source from which our self-empowerment flows.
A few notes on personal responsibility …
🌸 No one is going to save you; be your heroine.
🌸 Use your creative intelligence and agency to move through an unpleasant situation you find yourself in, no matter who may have caused it.
🌸 Make a conscious choice to process your unpleasant emotions such as shame, regret and guilt; otherwise, they will distort your reality.
🌸 Change what needs to be changed as soon as you can.
🌸 Your perspective will empower you or disempower you. You can choose your perspective.
🌸 Know and understand what is intrinsic to you and never compromise what you truly value.
🌸 Do hard things.
🌸 If you’ve failed, learn from the experience and move on with renewed knowledge and understanding.
🌸 Accept that life is 50/50, both light and dark and no addiction, bottle, distraction, cave, procrastination or denial will change that reality. However, knowing that you have the power to affect both the light and dark to your advantage is how you make your dreams come true. 🦋
As we move through the flurry of Mother’s Day, I invite all of us to take a moment to reflect on the cosmic Great Mother, the divine, feminine Spirit of nurturance known as The Goddess that graces our inner lives.
She reminds us that we are the healer, the teacher, the creative force who has the wisdom and the love to soothe our neverending emptiness, calm the pain pinned to our hearts and wipe the tears of shame and guilt for being a woman.
The Great Mother within inspires us to embody her spirit – mind, body, heart, and soul – to nurture our selfhood and empower our womanhood.
How would my life be different if I cherished myself wholly, thoroughly, and absolutely?
🌸 Listened and responded to my deepest needs and desires.
🌸 Offered comfort and words of encouragement as I move through my frenetic days and surrender to my darkest moments of pain, powerlessness and loneliness.
🌸 Loved myself unconditionally, no matter how often I have misstepped, slipped up and thoroughly made a mess of things.
Imagine who I can become if I practiced the wisdom and love of the Great Mother within. 🦋
Imagine if we believed that life is always working on our behalf. How differently would we respond to it’s bewildering twists and turns?
What if we believed that everything that we have and will experience is a means to help us to be more authentic, empowered and alive?
How would our perspective transform about whom we are in our story, victim or victor?
As a victor, we accept challenging situations and allow them to help us become wiser, stronger and more empowered as we walk along our path.
As a victim, we argue with reality, resist it, and become paralyzed in our own story, bemoaning the unfairness of life. As self-anointed victims, we’re stuck in our ignorance, we disempower our ability to effect change, and we struggle in our suffering mindset.
When a challenge, unpleasantness or a wrongness presents itself, remember its true purpose, breathe and listen to your inner truth whisper, ‘life doesn’t happen to me but for me.’
In the company of women, it’s easier for each of us to remember our own truth.
We remember that our lives depend on our capacity to drop all facades and pretenses.
We remember the bliss of just accepting that we are here to be ourselves.
And we remember, together, that the most powerful place for us to be, even if it’s sometimes terrifying, is fully in our body, so that we can move with the vulnerability and compassion of a broken-open heart. 🦋
Being more authentic means that we are engaged in things and connected with people that matter to us, that make us feel more alive, happy and whole.
It also means that we don’t allow the expectations and opinions of others to limit who we are, what we do and where our passions and dreams want to take us.
Authenticity is a choice and a commitment we make everyday, to live our own reality based on our own sense of purpose, values and beliefs, and not ‘theirs’.
When we step off the prescribed path that ‘they’ have endorsed as good and worthy, we take a stand for all that we are and we begin to forge our own identity and destiny and not ‘theirs’.
As our connection to our authentic-self deepens, we are inner-inspired to satisfy our own needs and desires. We stop ignoring and suppressing our inherent life force for the sake of pleasing ‘them’ with the hope that we will receive ‘their’ benediction, approval and love rooted in ‘their’ conditions.
When we decide to acknowledge, appreciate and understand our true self, we begin to make different choices that not only support our intrinsic need to survive but to also thrive in the adventure of being real, doing things that reflect our truth and connecting with people that resonate with our heart and soul.
Essentially, in the realm of authenticity, we transform and refresh the quality and experience of living our very own unique and beautiful life and not ‘theirs’. 🦋
We live our lives in accordance to what we believe about ourself, our identity, what we can do and have, as well as, our limitations, what we cannot do and not have.
Our experiences are the offspring of what we believe.
When we transform our beliefs about the essence of ‘self’, our capabilities and limitations, we fundamentally transform our experiences.
Our beliefs are our life, we dream about them, focus on them and live them.
Imagine for a moment that some of your beliefs are wrong, and that you are so much more creative, courageous and powerful than you have allowed yourself to be, how would your life change? What possibilities would you allow yourself to live, to experience? 🦋
When we believe in ourself, we feel confident in our capacity and abilities to make things happen, such as manifesting our dreams, achieving our goals and living true our desires.
Self-belief is based on our self-knowledge including past positive memories of making a decision and successfully acting on it.
If your self-belief is wobbly, think of 25+ awesome things you are proud of that you have manifested, accomplished and achieved. Write them down, breath them in and tuck your ‘WOW’ list away for that next time you are riddled with self-doubt.
Once we have consciously reconnected to our power and emotionally absorbed how powerful we really are, our doubt of self fades and we are ready to go do our next ‘WOW’ thing. Let’s Go! 🦋
If you yearn to be more alive, empowered and thriving with a greater sense of passion, purpose, and authenticity, then reconnect to the five dimensions of your true-self and reimagine your life. Begin to live your life from the inside out and not from the outside in. 🦋