Courage in an intimate relationship is not the absence of fear but a decision that you and your relationship are worth a moment of discomfort.
Silence in a relationship can not be an option because it gags our inherent right to love and be loved unconditionally — wholly and fully.
Wimping out in our relationship compromises our happiness, authenticity and self-respect. Inevitably, when we deny our truth, we step out of our empowered self and step into a victim mindset, swirling in shame, guilt and eventual regret.
Our intimate relationships are meant to be safe havens within which we can freely voice our fears, frustrations and disappointments, as well as, our needs and desires without the risk of being mentally or emotionally denied, dismissed or belittled.
For intimacy to flourish there cannot be the threat of a fall out for being human, vulnerable and real. A healthy and vibrant relationship embodies unbridled compassion, understanding and respect.
Intimacy requires the promise that our rights, needs and desires are valid and deserving to be acknowledged, cherished and encouraged both within ourself and in our relationship.
When we decide that we matter, (and we inherently do) we will find the way. I promise. 🦋
Being more authentic means that we are engaged in things and connected with people that matter to us, that make us feel more alive, happy and whole.
It also means that we don’t allow the expectations and opinions of others to limit who we are, what we do and where our passions and dreams want to take us.
Authenticity is a choice and a commitment we make everyday, to live our own reality based on our own sense of purpose, values and beliefs, and not ‘theirs’.
When we step off the prescribed path that ‘they’ have endorsed as good and worthy, we take a stand for all that we are and we begin to forge our own identity and destiny and not ‘theirs’.
As our connection to our authentic-self deepens, we are inner-inspired to satisfy our own needs and desires. We stop ignoring and suppressing our inherent life force for the sake of pleasing ‘them’ with the hope that we will receive ‘their’ benediction, approval and love rooted in ‘their’ conditions.
When we decide to acknowledge, appreciate and understand our true self, we begin to make different choices that not only support our intrinsic need to survive but to also thrive in the adventure of being real, doing things that reflect our truth and connecting with people that resonate with our heart and soul.
Essentially, in the realm of authenticity, we transform and refresh the quality and experience of living our very own unique and beautiful life and not ‘theirs’. 🦋
When we believe in ourself, we feel confident in our capacity and abilities to make things happen, such as manifesting our dreams, achieving our goals and living true our desires.
Self-belief is based on our self-knowledge including past positive memories of making a decision and successfully acting on it.
If your self-belief is wobbly, think of 25+ awesome things you are proud of that you have manifested, accomplished and achieved. Write them down, breath them in and tuck your ‘WOW’ list away for that next time you are riddled with self-doubt.
Once we have consciously reconnected to our power and emotionally absorbed how powerful we really are, our doubt of self fades and we are ready to go do our next ‘WOW’ thing. Let’s Go! 🦋
The moment we believe that it is possible to do or have something that we really want, is when our commitment magically clicks in.
Self-doubt, our inherent kill joy, will block us from committing to something new because different necessitates that we leave our safe and cushy comfort zone where we effortlessly control everything.
Unchecked, self-doubt will effectively contradict all of our attempts to commit to something that we desire to have, that we’ve never had before.
On the other hand, self-belief signals our courage to rise up and to be ready to overcome our discomforts, fears and inner-blocks as we traverse into the unknown and intimidating vistas of change.
It feels like a huge personal risk to change, to move from the known to the unknown, from comfort to discomfort, from effortlessness to effortful. And yet, we intrinsically know that change is necessary to feel alive, flourish and thrive, and so we dare ourselves to commit to the promise of better and more. 🦋
If you are contemplating how you will fill up your new year with fresh commitments, adventures and possibilities then you might want to consider what you filter your resolutions through.
The key to successfully fulfilling your New Year Resolutions this year and any year is your crystal clear honesty with yourself.
If your commitment(s) for the up coming year does not electrify your inner sense of being alive, authentic and thriving then wipe it off your list and cleanse your brain of it, because you will not fulfill it, and then you will most likely spiral into a self-loathing, poor me, pity pit that is never fun to climb out of.
Here is a sampling of the 3 intentions I filter my new year resolutions through before I commit to them.
✅ I will do what what energizes my mind, body, heart and soul the most.
✅ Listen to my inner voice, trust my gut and follow through on my intuition.
✅ Do more of what I’m passionate about, that is purpose driven, empowers me to grow and thrive and expands my horizons.
Today, ‘action’ with intent rather than habit. Determine your desired outcome. Mindfully take inspired action. When your desire, intent and action are consciously aligned, you will observe synchronicity at play and whoosh a new reality is created. This is the power of your conscious intent. 🦋
We are six weeks into the new year. It’s time to check in with our aspirations, intentions and goals for 2019. It’s time to celebrate our wins and to tweak our efforts where we are lagging behind. It’s also time to recommit ourselves to what we are aiming to accomplish this year or to let certain ambitions go because they are not true to what we deeply desire to experience. The test question for manifesting any dream is ‘Am I willing to run through fire and ice to have this dream come true?’ If the answer is yes, we keep going. If the answer is no, then we may want to consider letting it go for something that is in more alignment with our truest passions. 🦋
Stay curious my friends and you will be forever young. Curiosity ignites our whole being into a fervent arousal, pulsating with enthusiasm, passion, and a desire to explore the unknown, to learn and understand something new about someone or something. Today ask yourself, ‘what am I really curious about’ and then dare yourself to satisfy the tingling buzz. Remember, the future belongs to the curious.
That fear we feel in our gut is unrequited desire, clamouring for our attention, demanding to be satisfied, ready to be birthed.
Desire is our soul’s longing, calling out to us to experience a greater, deeper and more fulfilling life. When we ignore our soul’s hail, the consequences can be dire, we become agitated, anxious, stressed and potentially depressed. Alternatively, when we immerse our consciousness into the depth of what we truly desire, we surrender ourselves to a higher plane of inspiration, possibilities and vision of what can be.
Desire is not meaningless frivolity, it is a potent energy of profound importance for it is the marvellous answer to our most challenging and haunting questions. If we dare to listen, every desire unwraps a filament of our crowned ‘self’.
Our personal beliefs are one of our super-powers that can empower us to greatness or disempower us to worthlessness. To truely transform our life experiences, we need to begin the journey with rewriting what we believe of ourselves…to change the DNA of our thoughts, feelings and deeds. Every personal self-belief that is infused with love, respect and appreciation expands our inherent power to create a life we actually desire to live…the one we deserve.
My primary relationship is with myself—all others are mirrors of it.
As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation
that I desire from others. If I am committed to myself and to living
my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment. My willingness
to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy
with another. As I learn to love myself, I receive the love I desire from others.