Courage in an intimate relationship is not the absence of fear but a decision that you and your relationship are worth a moment of discomfort.
Silence in a relationship can not be an option because it gags our inherent right to love and be loved unconditionally — wholly and fully.
Wimping out in our relationship compromises our happiness, authenticity and self-respect. Inevitably, when we deny our truth, we step out of our empowered self and step into a victim mindset, swirling in shame, guilt and eventual regret.
Our intimate relationships are meant to be safe havens within which we can freely voice our fears, frustrations and disappointments, as well as, our needs and desires without the risk of being mentally or emotionally denied, dismissed or belittled.
For intimacy to flourish there cannot be the threat of a fall out for being human, vulnerable and real. A healthy and vibrant relationship embodies unbridled compassion, understanding and respect.
Intimacy requires the promise that our rights, needs and desires are valid and deserving to be acknowledged, cherished and encouraged both within ourself and in our relationship.
When we decide that we matter, (and we inherently do) we will find the way. I promise. 🦋
Being more authentic means that we are engaged in things and connected with people that matter to us, that make us feel more alive, happy and whole.
It also means that we don’t allow the expectations and opinions of others to limit who we are, what we do and where our passions and dreams want to take us.
Authenticity is a choice and a commitment we make everyday, to live our own reality based on our own sense of purpose, values and beliefs, and not ‘theirs’.
When we step off the prescribed path that ‘they’ have endorsed as good and worthy, we take a stand for all that we are and we begin to forge our own identity and destiny and not ‘theirs’.
As our connection to our authentic-self deepens, we are inner-inspired to satisfy our own needs and desires. We stop ignoring and suppressing our inherent life force for the sake of pleasing ‘them’ with the hope that we will receive ‘their’ benediction, approval and love rooted in ‘their’ conditions.
When we decide to acknowledge, appreciate and understand our true self, we begin to make different choices that not only support our intrinsic need to survive but to also thrive in the adventure of being real, doing things that reflect our truth and connecting with people that resonate with our heart and soul.
Essentially, in the realm of authenticity, we transform and refresh the quality and experience of living our very own unique and beautiful life and not ‘theirs’. 🦋
All woman are gloriously powerful beyond earthly measure and yet only a few brave hearts will dare to own their luminous crown and wield their magical sceptre, to rebirth their divine right to be happy, whole and successful! Be that proud self-empowered woman! We need the reemergence of your feminine power. 🦋
Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.
I use the word “love” here not merely in the personal sense but as a state of being, or a state of grace – not in the infantile American sense of being made happy but in the tough and universal sense of quest and daring and growth.
I believe happiness is a habit … the moment we decide that happiness is the baseline from which we live our lives … we prime our intention to be happy … we give ourselves permission to think happy thoughts, speak happy words and do happy things … again and again and again.
For me the true measure of success is personal happiness, optimism, gratitude and a deep sense of satisfaction.
~ Judit e. Szabo
An Experiment: Set Your Own Measure…
Take a look at every aspect of your life and ask yourself…
“Am I happy with this part (relationships, work, finances, home, health…) of my life.”
If you answer ‘yes’ then you are experiencing success in that aspect of your life however, if you answer ‘no’ or ‘somewhat’ then it is time for you to tap into your authentic self, design a doable plan and then do ‘it’ with all of your heart, soul, gray matter and physical energy.