Today we live in a culture that advocates that a woman can ‘do it all’. Yes, of course, we can but at what cost?
Many women are experiencing low-grade burnout, compromised mental health, cognitive dissonance, and relentless fatigue.
Overextended and depleted, women are searching for solutions and many are turning to authenticity life coaching as a means to correct their inner-outer imbalance, to restore and sustain their sense of equanimity, joy and vitality.
As an authenticity life coach, I support my clients to…
🌸 Become more conscious of their authentic selves.
🌸 Develop a self-empowering mindset.
🌸 Proactively thrive in their multi-faceted life.
Authenticity is the holy grail that enhances our capacity to empower our life positively.
In the company of women, it’s easier for each of us to remember our own truth.
We remember that our lives depend on our capacity to drop all facades and pretenses.
We remember the bliss of just accepting that we are here to be ourselves.
And we remember, together, that the most powerful place for us to be, even if it’s sometimes terrifying, is fully in our body, so that we can move with the vulnerability and compassion of a broken-open heart. 🦋
Courage in an intimate relationship is not the absence of fear but a decision that you and your relationship are worth a moment of discomfort.
Silence in a relationship can not be an option because it gags our inherent right to love and be loved unconditionally — wholly and fully.
Wimping out in our relationship compromises our happiness, authenticity and self-respect. Inevitably, when we deny our truth, we step out of our empowered self and step into a victim mindset, swirling in shame, guilt and eventual regret.
Our intimate relationships are meant to be safe havens within which we can freely voice our fears, frustrations and disappointments, as well as, our needs and desires without the risk of being mentally or emotionally denied, dismissed or belittled.
For intimacy to flourish there cannot be the threat of a fall out for being human, vulnerable and real. A healthy and vibrant relationship embodies unbridled compassion, understanding and respect.
Intimacy requires the promise that our rights, needs and desires are valid and deserving to be acknowledged, cherished and encouraged both within ourself and in our relationship.
When we decide that we matter, (and we inherently do) we will find the way. I promise. 🦋
And read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still.
And listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently. And the people healed.
And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.
And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.
I think one of the most destructive beliefs we have about relationships is that our partner is responsible for meeting our needs. This belief is not only wrong, it is toxic poison, that destroys most relationships.
To be clear, he or she is not obligated to fulfilling your needs, you are. In turn, you are free from the nonsensical notion that it is your job to fulfill his or her needs.
However, and this is key for a thriving relationship, you are both equally responsible for meeting the needs of your relationship.🦋
2018 = 365 opportunities to reimagine, influence and shape your inner and outer world, so that your life, work, relationships and day-to-day experiences are a true reflection of you, the unique, authentic and empowered you. Now that’s something to be excited about. Hello 2018!
When we are listening to respond we can’t hear the other person … when we are listening to understand … our personal agendas are put aside and our response or non-response will naturally empower the situation …
~ Judit e. Szabo
(Note: I agree with John Gray and I would like to add that the above also applies to women listening to men.)
I don’t place much credence on trusting people … not because they are untrustworthy … because it is a moot point … to be human is to err … inevitably people blunder … as such my trust is fully focused on trusting myself … my ability to have and to hold the unavoidable slings and arrows of outrageous behaviour … I trust in my resiliency … therein lies my superpower in relationships.
If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. ~ Daniel Goleman ( Emotional Intelligence)
Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the “success” in our lives. ~ Ph.D Anabel L. Jensen, Marsha C. Rideout, Patricia E. Freedman, Joshua M. Freedman (Handle With Care: Emotional Intelligence Activity Book)
In the last decade or so, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships. ~ John Gottman (Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child)
It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both. ~ David Caruso (Emotional What?)