And read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still.
And listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently. And the people healed.
And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.
And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.
I think one of the most destructive beliefs we have about relationships is that our partner is responsible for meeting our needs. This belief is not only wrong, it is toxic poison, that destroys most relationships.
To be clear, he or she is not obligated to fulfilling your needs, you are. In turn, you are free from the nonsensical notion that it is your job to fulfill his or her needs.
However, and this is key for a thriving relationship, you are both equally responsible for meeting the needs of your relationship.🦋
2018 = 365 opportunities to reimagine, influence and shape your inner and outer world, so that your life, work, relationships and day-to-day experiences are a true reflection of you, the unique, authentic and empowered you. Now that’s something to be excited about. Hello 2018!
When we are listening to respond we can’t hear the other person … when we are listening to understand … our personal agendas are put aside and our response or non-response will naturally empower the situation …
~ Judit e. Szabo
(Note: I agree with John Gray and I would like to add that the above also applies to women listening to men.)
I don’t place much credence on trusting people … not because they are untrustworthy … because it is a moot point … to be human is to err … inevitably people blunder … as such my trust is fully focused on trusting myself … my ability to have and to hold the unavoidable slings and arrows of outrageous behaviour … I trust in my resiliency … therein lies my superpower in relationships.
If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. ~ Daniel Goleman ( Emotional Intelligence)
Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the “success” in our lives. ~ Ph.D Anabel L. Jensen, Marsha C. Rideout, Patricia E. Freedman, Joshua M. Freedman (Handle With Care: Emotional Intelligence Activity Book)
In the last decade or so, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships. ~ John Gottman (Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child)
It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both. ~ David Caruso (Emotional What?)