Shame is an inner-focused, painful emotion that encompasses the entire sense of self. It distorts a person’s self image to the point that they cannot see nor relate to their deeply buried authentic selves.
Shame is an IRRATIONAL feeling of worthlessness, humiliation and self loathing that leads to an overall feeling of paralysis that profoundly sabotages a person’s life.
Internalized shame ruins lives, it stops individuals from experiencing professional success and it derails significant relationships.
With the support of a professional therapist or transformational life coach, shame can be dismantled and a person’s self-esteem and life rebuilt. 🦋
The return home to Self is an Odyssey, a journey of love, appreciation and respect.🦋
An empowered woman does not seek validation outside of herself, rather she sees her self-validation in the world she creates. 🦋
If you have the courage to believe in yourself unconditionally then you are unstoppable. 🦋
If you can dream it you can do it but first you must believe in yourself. 🦋
Self-care is our self-esteem’s parlance, ‘I am worthy’.
‘I choose to be me’ is every self-empowered woman’s mantra, philosophy and religion.
Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem, and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in love, in sex, in parenting, in every important aspect of existence – and how high he or she is likely to rise. The reputation you have with yourself – your self-esteem – is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life.
~ Nathaniel Branden
A water bearer had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection. And miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you. I have been able to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.
The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw. So I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you’ve watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house?
~ Unknown (China or India)
- What are the lessons of this parable? (Eg. Self-Esteem, Self-Respect, Diversity, Authenticity, Perspective …)
- How can I integrate these lessons into my own life, at work and leadership?
- Who are the celebrated crackpots in our world? How do/did they add value, positively influence humanity or make a difference?
* When you have a moment, I would love your feedback on inquiry #3. Many Thanks Judit.