Happiness is a daily practice of self-love, respect and care. 🦋
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You are smart, capable and successful, yet deep down, you are terrified that at any time, you will be exposed as a fraud, a fake.
I just described imposter syndrome, a feeling in which accomplished women discredit their achievements and victories and believe that one day they will be found out.
Some signs of impostor syndrome include:
🌸 Crediting luck or timing as reasons for your success.
🌸 You are afraid of being seen as imperfect or a failure.
🌸 You believe that the only way to meet expectations is by overworking.
🌸 You don’t believe you are worthy of attention or affection.
🌸 You downplay your accomplishments.
🌸 You tend to procrastinate and hold back from reaching attainable goals.
Some steps to consider to overcome your imposter syndrome….
🌸 Realize that you are not alone in believing that you are a fraud. Indeed, it is estimated that 70% of individuals worldwide have experienced imposter syndrome at some point in their lives.
🌸 Acknowledge your potential and own your achievements both mentally and emotionally.
🌸 Identify and respect your feelings and fears and then put them to the side. Write out all of your achievements and success to date.
🌸 Stop comparing yourself to others by holding your achievements up against theirs; instead, focus on measuring your successes.
🌸 Hire a qualified life coach, like myself who can assist you with turning your thoughts, feelings and behaviour away from believing that you are a fake by supporting you with owning your authenticity and building your future on your actual strengths, accomplishments and successes. 🦋
When we fully embody our authentic self, we stop looking for answers from other people. 🦋
Courage in an intimate relationship is not the absence of fear but a decision that you and your relationship are worth a moment of discomfort.
Silence in a relationship can not be an option because it gags our inherent right to love and be loved unconditionally — wholly and fully.
Wimping out in our relationship compromises our happiness, authenticity and self-respect. Inevitably, when we deny our truth, we step out of our empowered self and step into a victim mindset, swirling in shame, guilt and eventual regret.
Our intimate relationships are meant to be safe havens within which we can freely voice our fears, frustrations and disappointments, as well as, our needs and desires without the risk of being mentally or emotionally denied, dismissed or belittled.
For intimacy to flourish there cannot be the threat of a fall out for being human, vulnerable and real. A healthy and vibrant relationship embodies unbridled compassion, understanding and respect.
Intimacy requires the promise that our rights, needs and desires are valid and deserving to be acknowledged, cherished and encouraged both within ourself and in our relationship.
When we decide that we matter, (and we inherently do) we will find the way. I promise. 🦋
When we respect our worthiness and that which we esteem and stand for, we have zero tolerance for anyone or anything that is a threat to our sense of decency and honour.
We don’t waste our precious time and energy trying to fix the unfixable, we walk! 🦋
No matter what your goals plans or intentions are for the up coming new year, ( diet, exercise, money, career, relationships … ) cultivating a positive and loving relationship with yourself, the real you, is an essential first step to having your dreams come true. 🦋
Are you suffering your past or your future in the present? Why? Habit?
What is your story and how can you turn it around?
What can you do to stop the suffering thoughts, to surrender them, to rise up and thrive in your glorious power today? 🦋
Self-love is a divine illumination that liberates our hearts and minds to be an authentic force for the goodness of ourselves and others. It is the secret sauce for a beautiful life lived well.
Self-love is the transformative alchemy we are all searching for to fix our messy lives, to cast out the darkness from our hearts, to right our wrongs, to breakthrough the barriers of our misguided creations, to reimagine our destiny and to recommit ourselves to the infinite wisdom of our collective oneness – we are in this game together.
Happy Valentines Day! 🦋
Boundaries! If someone reacts to you reinforcing your boundaries, it demonstrates that they are needed. Stay strong. 🦋
The return home to Self is an Odyssey, a journey of love, appreciation and respect.🦋
An empowered woman does not seek validation outside of herself, rather she sees her self-validation in the world she creates. 🦋
What we experience in relationship with others is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. One of the most profound life lessons is that relationships are mirrors. They mirror back to us how we are feeling inside and the correlating energy we are emitting into the world. Remember, we can’t look in the mirror and frown and have the mirror smile; it is impossible. As it is within, so it is without.🦋
If you have the courage to believe in yourself unconditionally then you are unstoppable. 🦋
If you can dream it you can do it but first you must believe in yourself. 🦋
What’s your self-love language? 🦋
My love is unconditional but your presence in my life is not. 🦋
Today I asked my body what she needed,
Which is a big deal
Considering my journey of
Not Really Asking That Much.
I thought she might need more water.
But as I stood in the shower
Reflecting on her stretch marks,
Her roundness where I would like flatness,
Her softness where I would like firmness,
All those conditioned wishes
That form a bundle of
She whispered very gently: “Could you just love me like this?”
~ Hollie Holden (June 2016)
Setting boundaries is healthy self-care. When we say ‘no’ without guilt or shame, we are signalling self-respect, integrity and our commitment to living our lives authentically.
Self-respect, appreciation, acceptance and forgiveness or flotsam and jetsam washed up on the beach of life…
~ Judit e. Szabo
To truely love another begin with self-respect.
~ Judit e. Szabo
Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience, that shall explain and overlook the old.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
A water bearer had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection. And miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you. I have been able to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.
The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw. So I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you’ve watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house?
~ Unknown (China or India)
- What are the lessons of this parable? (Eg. Self-Esteem, Self-Respect, Diversity, Authenticity, Perspective …)
- How can I integrate these lessons into my own life, at work and leadership?
- Who are the celebrated crackpots in our world? How do/did they add value, positively influence humanity or make a difference?
* When you have a moment, I would love your feedback on inquiry #3. Many Thanks Judit.